Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I think I read something somewhere that the slower couples take it the longer the relationship lasts. obviously this isnt true for everyone but think about it. Especially for certain guys if a girl gives it up on the first date, how much of a challenge is she really going to be for that guy? Unless that guy is really into her he may move on rather quickly. just my thinking.
Guys like that tend to be not worth girls messing with because pardon my expression but they are usually douchelords. Not to mention that's fairly hypocritical to judge someone for doing something you engage in yourself.
If your looking for a potential long term relationship, I think waiting a little while is the best bet. Not for the sake of just obstaining, but to give yourself plenty of time to really learn about your SO and get to know them while protecting your heart.
Once sex enters the relationship, emotional bonds will be a lot stronger (especially for women, due to hormones). The more emotion leads in a relationship, the more likely you are to overlook major issues (maybe even subconsciously) because you are "in love" and being driven purely by emotion without any rational analysis.
That said, there is certainly no set timeframe or formula. I would just do what you need to in order to protect your heart, and not let emotions rule over your decisions in the relationship. If this means holding off a little longer on close intimacy, then do it. If not, then whatever works for you!
(I am not a strong example however. Although I knew my now fiancee for a year and a half before we were intimate, and knew her very well, we had only been exclusivly officially dating each other for a few weeks).
Perhaps i don't know many of my friends have had little time between metting and sex and ended up with marriage or long term dating. Also i wonder about the advice of someone who isn't married herself yet advising people on it .
Hey, people can decide to be exclusive after just one date - it doesn't have to be a long drawn out process.
Patty is like a lot of people very good at what they do, as long as they are doing it for other people they are tops in their field but just can't seem to help themselves
There is no clearly right or wrong answer to this, but I do think that the more experience you have, the easier it is to make the decision that's right for you (and the answer will vary for each person you date, so it could range from first date to never). That means that early in your experience, you may make mistakes, but if you learn from them, it's not necessarily a disaster. However, taking things slowly when you're inexperienced is seldom a bad choice! It seems that few people take their time anymore, but it really comes down to your own comfort level, desire for the experience, goals, and personal values.
Being as i'm younger, and most people in this group seem a bit older i am wondering how long before dating someone you feel comfortable engaging in intimacy?
Being as i'm younger, and most people in this group seem a bit older i am wondering how long before dating someone you feel comfortable engaging in intimacy?
I've wondered about the first part of your question.
Why are folks on this forum SO OLD!
I feel like most of their advice can be useful from their wisdom and experiences but a lot of times can be very biased.
Being as i'm younger, and most people in this group seem a bit older i am wondering how long before dating someone you feel comfortable engaging in intimacy?
Depends on the person and the relationship. If you actually want a relationship with the person - I've waited until I knew them enough to feel comfortable taking it to that level. If it's just a heat of the moment fling - who cares.
Quote:
Originally Posted by JAQ
I've wondered about the first part of your question.
Why are folks on this forum SO OLD!
I feel like most of their advice can be useful from their wisdom and experiences but a lot of times can be very biased.
How old is SO OLD? And honestly - if you are sooo young - you shouldn't be having sex anyway!
Guys like that tend to be not worth girls messing with because pardon my expression but they are usually douchelords. Not to mention that's fairly hypocritical to judge someone for doing something you engage in yourself.
Douchelords?? WOW! Never heard that before.
Any~~waays...
I think you are very young so your hormones are just all over the place. I think there is a reason young people can't drive till 16 or cannot buy alcohol till they are 21. I sure wish there was a number like 25 for people to have sex.
Don't start people. I think by that time young adults are past their crazy hormonal craziness and can make better judgements and choices.
A car is nothing to drive around at the age of 11. Just sayin. Just not ready. So I think for sex.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
.
.
