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So my question is obviously directed to those who have tried match.com. I just signed up for it and its strange. I have over 600 views from 200 people to my profile and only maybe 14 have written me and of those I've only written back 4 that were interesting enough. 2 of them I met and I don't feel anything with them, the other 2 simply flaked out and stopped emailing me back. I've had maybe 20 winks but I think its dumb, lol and the winkers have been even less interesting and waaaay too old, ha.
I live in a moderate sized town so I have no idea if that's what it is. I'm doing my part as much as I'm comfortable with, clicking yes on matches in the matching system if I like a match, I've sent a few stupid winks to see if it does anything and nothing. I realize some just may not be paying members, but some of the ones I've somehow shown interest to, have the highlighted profile so you know for sure they're paying and none of them seem interested.
I find it hilarious that a lot of the men on here complain that even ugly girls get tons of messages on these sites..umm..I must be beyond ugly then. I'm trying to figure out what I wrote on my profile that is a turn off but I can't figure out what it could be. I picked the best pictures I could find to put on there too and I look just the same in my pictures as I do in person and take pictures pretty well for the most part. I'm thin and have decent hair and ok skin, haha..what is it? Is it my area? this particular service? Its so weird..I get more attention being out and about. I do still go out and do things so its not like I'm relying on the stupid internet, but I don't meet many singles anymore so I"m trying something else.
You got 14 messages and you just signed up..
how many messages would be "enough" ?
Last edited by Cletus Awreetus-Awrightus; 12-30-2011 at 10:26 AM..
I don't know what to tell you mir. I tried match out once for 2 months, and it wasn't much different from OkCupid. POF seems like the bottom of the barrel.
I will click on profiles of all attractive women, even if they are far away. Sometimes, I like to read profiles of random people just to see what they are doing with their life. However, there are a number of reasons that I won't message someone. It's usually due to the pretentiousness of their profile, whether relating to art, music, books, education, or whatever. It comes off as snobby and superior. Other than that, depending on the length of the profile, I can tell she wouldn't be a good match, or there was one remark in the profile I completely disagree with.
I wouldn't worry about it. You are an attractive woman, who seems grounded and fun from your posts. You will find someone.
Well, if you've only signed up and already gotten 14 e-mails, that doesn't sound bad. How many do you think you should have gotten? Isn't Match a pay-site? When people have to actually pay for a service, they tend to be a lot more selective. Likely, only the hottest men and women will get a lot of responses.
From your pictures here, you look ethnic. Maybe you were born in this country but at a first glance, you look like you could be Indian, middle eastern or something. Maybe that group isn't popular on Match or dating sites. Also, maybe guys in your area aren't interested in such ladies.
Truthfully, no matter the site, the vast majority of people are going to judge you strictly on your looks. If they don't like your looks, they won't respond. Maybe you'd have better luck meeting people the old fashioned way and just get out and about more and actually try to meet people in person.
I don't know what to tell you mir. I tried match out once for 2 months, and it wasn't much different from OkCupid. POF seems like the bottom of the barrel.
I will click on profiles of all attractive women, even if they are far away. Sometimes, I like to read profiles of random people just to see what they are doing with their life. However, there are a number of reasons that I won't message someone. It's usually due to the pretentiousness of their profile, whether relating to art, music, books, education, or whatever. It comes off as snobby and superior. Other than that, depending on the length of the profile, I can tell she wouldn't be a good match, or there was one remark in the profile I completely disagree with.
I wouldn't worry about it. You are an attractive woman, who seems grounded and fun from your posts. You will find someone.
good points. I don't write anything pretentious. I'm just a regular girl trying to find someone.
Well, if you've only signed up and already gotten 14 e-mails, that doesn't sound bad. How many do you think you should have gotten? Isn't Match a pay-site? When people have to actually pay for a service, they tend to be a lot more selective. Likely, only the hottest men and women will get a lot of responses.
From your pictures here, you look ethnic. Maybe you were born in this country but at a first glance, you look like you could be Indian, middle eastern or something. Maybe that group isn't popular on Match or dating sites. Also, maybe guys in your area aren't interested in such ladies.
Truthfully, no matter the site, the vast majority of people are going to judge you strictly on your looks. If they don't like your looks, they won't respond. Maybe you'd have better luck meeting people the old fashioned way and just get out and about more and actually try to meet people in person.
I wouldn't think anything of 14 emails if it hasn't been 3 weeks and had 650 views from over 200 people..that's the strange thing. half the emails have been from men waaay too old, the others I didn't find attractive. I emailed 4 back and met 2, the other 2 flaked and stop writing back for whatever reason.
haha ethnic? I guess so, I don't know where you get Indian from though, that's a first as I'm not dark enough (I'm light olive toned), lol. My parents are Israeli but my dads side is eastern European while my mom is Iranian/Persian heritage (both parents are Jewish). where I live, a lot of people think I'm hispanic and that look is very "in" here so who knows. We do have mostly transplants in my age group that live here so that could factor in for a wide variety of tastes. I do the old fashioned way too, just cause I tried online doesn't mean I give up on meeting someone the regular way. Its just my day to day life doesn't put me around other singles anymore, even when I go out cause all my friends and all their friends friends are coupled up, its impossible for me to meet people that way. If I'm lucky I meet 3-5 guys a year to date the regular way and lately I meet guys I like but they never like me back. so I'm trying something different.
So my question is obviously directed to those who have tried match.com. I just signed up for it and its strange. I have over 600 views from 200 people to my profile and only maybe 14 have written me and of those I've only written back 4 that were interesting enough. 2 of them I met and I don't feel anything with them, the other 2 simply flaked out and stopped emailing me back. I've had maybe 20 winks but I think its dumb, lol and the winkers have been even less interesting and waaaay too old, ha.
I live in a moderate sized town so I have no idea if that's what it is. I'm doing my part as much as I'm comfortable with, clicking yes on matches in the matching system if I like a match, I've sent a few stupid winks to see if it does anything and nothing. I realize some just may not be paying members, but some of the ones I've somehow shown interest to, have the highlighted profile so you know for sure they're paying and none of them seem interested.
I find it hilarious that a lot of the men on here complain that even ugly girls get tons of messages on these sites..umm..I must be beyond ugly then. I'm trying to figure out what I wrote on my profile that is a turn off but I can't figure out what it could be. I picked the best pictures I could find to put on there too and I look just the same in my pictures as I do in person and take pictures pretty well for the most part. I'm thin and have decent hair and ok skin, haha..what is it? Is it my area? this particular service? Its so weird..I get more attention being out and about. I do still go out and do things so its not like I'm relying on the stupid internet, but I don't meet many singles anymore so I"m trying something else.
No, it depends on the individual. Out of those 200 men, you're going to have your jerks, losers, average guys, nice guys, great guys. Unfortunately the only way to figure out what type of guy they are is to get to know them.
You happen to be getting into a rut of meeting the wrong guys. Stop worrying about what you look like and what is on your profile. A real guy will like you for who you are.
If, for example, you only prefer blond hair or brown hair or only a certain eye color on a guy or a certain height or look about him, try expanding away from that. I'm not saying you do this, I'm just giving an example.
No, it depends on the individual. Out of those 200 men, you're going to have your jerks, losers, average guys, nice guys, great guys. Unfortunately the only way to figure out what type of guy they are is to get to know them.
You happen to be getting into a rut of meeting the wrong guys. Stop worrying about what you look like and what is on your profile. A real guy will like you for who you are.
If, for example, you only prefer blond hair or brown hair or only a certain eye color on a guy or a certain height or look about him, try expanding away from that. I'm not saying you do this, I'm just giving an example.
no, I'm not that closed minded. I'm not expecting every guy to like me but this is weird, lol. how long is this rut supposed to last? been meeting the wrong guys for ohh..5 years now. I've been very single for 2 and a half of those years. before that I just dated when my ex and I were "off". anyways..trying something different and its meh.
fargo-even average guys have treated me like ***** so who knows anymore who is right. I just give anyone who doesn't repulse me a chance at least.
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