Engaging in conversation with people after reading their blogs (girl, American, feelings)

[blackconverse]

I don't know if this is the appropriate subforum for this to go in, but here goes....



So, I work part-time at a retail store and there's this coworker of mine who I could say caught my eye during a brief chat during downtime. Seen her at the store rarely since, but yesterday, while bored and checking out my schedule for the weekend, I came across a full name that looked close enough and scheduled in the same area and googled it.

And that led to links to blog and twitter postings from said person. Which caused me to wonder, why do people write these things that are read by no one (no comments, less than a dozen views)? Pouring out your heart and feelings to no one in particular, why? I still intend to strike up a conversation this weekend, but can't help but think, is there any polite way to say, "Hey, I just read your blog this week" ?

Or is this something I just have to keep silent about?

[CourageMom]

Sometimes people just need to say something out loud .. and like talking to your dog or cat.. writing it is our new american pastime. so my guess is, it was written so as not to take up rent in her head. If you like this person and you think bringing it up will make her uncomfortable, then don't.
I had made a purchase from a small company and the person I dealt with in the sale and I began writing back and forth. They looked up my address on a website that tells an estimate of my property. How rude to tell me, and how weird too!! I abruptly stopped writing to them.
Now, consider how that may affect bringing up the blog... creepy, like a voyeur.

[srjth]

Because some people (like me) have a strong desire to express themselves and because writing is a solo act you feel free to say whatever you feel without being judged or taken advantage of by someone. I don't have a blog yet but I am considering making one for this reason.

I think it's risky bringing up her online writings if they have very few visitors. I mean, yeah, sure, it's public, but she may truly think that no one cares or reads based on it's history, and feels safe to say things that might embarrass her if she said them to someone she doesn't know well.

You could make an argument that this is dumb on her part, but I'm assuming you like this girl and are interested in making her comfortable so you can spend time with her and get to know her better, so making her uncomfortable is not a good idea.

[DrEarth]

I have a blog like that, but in no way is my name on it. I've occasionally googled classmates and found blogs that tell every intimate detail of their life. It was kind of weird knowing all of that stuff about a person without ever speaking.

For example, one of my classmates was very involved in volunteering, and was quite the humanitarian. I spent a few hours reading her blog, and had so much respect for her. Another guy's blog I found was about drinking too much, and having random sex.

Writing like that is good, but when anyone has open access, it would be a problem down the road.

I wouldn't tell her you read her blog, because most likely the only way to find it would be to search for her name. That would get you labeled as a creep. Maybe you can bring up a topic that she wrote about, or tell her you were searching for some topic, and this blog came up, and it was yours!