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Dude, if its a happily married woman, she's not even gonna notice the guy that walked in. Or at least that's how it was when I was married. And my husband was much older than me; I could've easily had any guy I wanted. Love truly is blind. Even when he started looking his age to me, it didn't matter. No other man even came close.
I'd be interested in the reverse to this question, though. A married woman, who has let herself go (45 lb. overweight, no style other than dorky looking capri's, etc) is out with her husband. In walks a smoking hot milf; I'd be curious as to his thoughts......
I'll start a parallel thread but you know there will be WAR
Let's say you are married, you are good looking, you have kids in the 5 to 12 age range and you are married to your husband who happens to be:
~ Not in the best of shape (not super obese though, but working out is not his thing)
~ Dresses indifferently (not fashionable at all)
~ Doesn't take care of himself, as in trimming hair, eyebrows or nasal hair etc.
~ Not a lively personality (as in not very talkative or charming and looks dull and weighed upon)
~ his habitualities tend to border on what can be deemed a "slob"
Life goes on. And you are okay with things as they are. You have a 30 year mortgage, a basic life system blah blah blah.
So, you happen to be in a crowded and popular coffee/pastry shop with husband and kids, and at this moment, a man enters the scene to get coffee, pastries etc. The man is:
~ Trim and toned
~ Great physique
~ in short, the total opposite of your husband
What are the thoughts in your head? Do you wish your husband would take a leaf out of this guy's book? Let's hear it.
Aaahh... If I were the wife in the situation you described, I would find myself eyeing the "trim, toned, great-physique" guy... and most likely only because he's the opposite of the husband I have. I think I have the foolish tendency to be "overly curious" about guys who are different from what I'm used to. Does it mean I want them? I don't know.
Would I want my husband to be like that guy? I think so...I think it would make me happy to see my husband be more secure and look his best--not for me primarily, but for his own wellbeing.
My husband (IRL) is an attractive guy, and not just to me either. Men and women always tell me so after they see him. He's attractive physically and such a friendly, charming person. But I find myself fantisizing about someone like the first guy you described. The grass is always greener. I just have to keep it in my head, and in these ridiculous posts I make here.
No, it's not about me. Moms are no-go territory for me. Besides, most of these women are white, so why would be bother with a coloured guy? It's an uppity, whitish town.
My gym is located right next to a breakfast/pastry/coffee joint.
Guys work out and hit this place for a little snack at around 8:30 am. I sit here and have breakfast and I observe the people, prior to hitting the gym myself. Every time one of the ripped fellas comes in, the women eyeball them like crazy, even in the presence of their husbands. I wonder what those guys feel like And why the women eyeball them when they are in a so-called devoted marriage.
If I'm standing next to my wife and she is checking out an Adonis top to bottom, and I'm an overweight and older looking man.... I'd be dead in an instant LOL
Do these guys get the clue? And do the women have a chat with the hubbies to try getting them a little groomed?
Who are these herds of families hanging out together at the coffee shop at 8:30 in the morning? If it is a weekday the kids that age (didn't you say age 7-12?) are in school and adults are typically on their way to work. If is a weekend, sorry, there is no way the family is getting the preteens dressed and out the door at that hour. Preschoolers, maybe.
Who are these herds of families hanging out together at the coffee shop at 8:30 in the morning? If it is a weekday the kids that age (didn't you say age 7-12?) are in school and adults are typically on their way to work. If is a weekend, sorry, there is no way the family is getting the preteens dressed and out the door at that hour. Preschoolers, maybe.
This is a fake scenario.
It's a lie then. So get out of my thread. You're only derailing it. I can technically report you for violation of TOS in an otherwise drama-free, amicable thread.
What are the thoughts in your head? ... Let's hear it.
I've spent twenty of our twenty-five years together teaching my husband the fine art of personal hygiene and general tidiness. He calls it my husband improvement project. It's a trial at times, but the results have been worth it.
I never compare him to another. I see many attractive men in my life, but I never regret my choice. He's the best person ever for me.
I have to say, folks, if my thread offends you and you literally wanna hit the computer, please go outside and jog 5 miles. It's energy well spent and actually works wonders towards "health". I can vouch for it
Otherwise, let's keep things easy on an "imaginary" thread. I asked questions on female thoughts. I didn't report any wife running away with the gym rats and skies falling thereafter.
Let's say you are married, you are good looking, you have kids in the 5 to 12 age range and you are married to your husband who happens to be:
~ Not in the best of shape (not super obese though, but working out is not his thing)
~ Dresses indifferently (not fashionable at all)
~ Doesn't take care of himself, as in trimming hair, eyebrows or nasal hair etc.
~ Not a lively personality (as in not very talkative or charming and looks dull and weighed upon)
~ his habitualities tend to border on what can be deemed a "slob"
Life goes on. And you are okay with things as they are. You have a 30 year mortgage, a basic life system blah blah blah.
So, you happen to be in a crowded and popular coffee/pastry shop with husband and kids, and at this moment, a man enters the scene to get coffee, pastries etc. The man is:
~ Trim and toned
~ Great physique
~ in short, the total opposite of your husband
What are the thoughts in your head? Do you wish your husband would take a leaf out of this guy's book? Let's hear it.
Honestly? I would be thinking how nice it would be to sleep with him. I recommend you get yourself in better shape.
Dude, if its a happily married woman, she's not even gonna notice the guy that walked in. Or at least that's how it was when I was married. And my husband was much older than me; I could've easily had any guy I wanted. Love truly is blind. Even when he started looking his age to me, it didn't matter. No other man even came close.
I'd be interested in the reverse to this question, though. A married woman, who has let herself go (45 lb. overweight, no style other than dorky looking capri's, etc) is out with her husband. In walks a smoking hot milf; I'd be curious as to his thoughts......
Thanks for planting the idea in my head. I have opened a parallel thread. I'm betting men won't respond or would give the "till death do us part" pretense becoz most men are chicken with this stuff. They let it grow like fire inside of them, like a poison tree, and that resentment shows in various other forms. It's a controversial issue to even get into.
Besides, many of our male regulars won't even bother to reply honestly to save the image they have built with the female posters here.
As for me, when did I ever worry about my lame-ass, immature boy image
But I'm hoping some of the answers in either thread will give readers of the forum a ton of ideas and input as to how to approach such matters with regard to appearance, health and well-being. How many threads have there been where a newbie poster complains about weight/appearance/letting loose being the issue or the husband/wife cheating or jerking off porno
I think this thread needs pictures to illustrate. I'm also assuming in your scenario that the husband has always looked this way? Maybe I'm not imagining it correctly.
When we were married my ex husband was fit and kept himself up (and still does) so I've never had to deal with this, to be honest, so I can't be entirely sure how I'd react if there was a big change in a guys appearance while we were together. I still stick to what I said in my previous answer though.
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Men and women always tell me so after they see him. He's attractive physically and such a friendly, charming person. But I find myself fantisizing about someone like the first guy you described. 
The grass is always greener. I just have to keep it in my head, and in these ridiculous posts I make here.
