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It was cold last night and I put on a hat before going out to movie with bf,
Bf looked at me and said" you look fobbish in that hat", and today when i was trying on some outfit he said I looked promiscuous in that outfit. I was super mad about the comments. I thought those were insulting comments and he said he's just being honest.
Don't know how to react to this one.
And here's me in the outfit if anyone wonders.
Looks perfect for going out with friends or to dinner in: Looks well thought out "Shows just enough with out really showing anything" Hell, your wearing 2 shirts, how revealing can it be. I put it in the "Classy, but a little sexy class".
It was cold last night and I put on a hat before going out to movie with bf,
Bf looked at me and said" you look fobbish in that hat", and today when i was trying on some outfit he said I looked promiscuous in that outfit. I was super mad about the comments. I thought those were insulting comments and he said he's just being honest.
Don't know how to react to this one.
And here's me in the outfit if anyone wonders.
You look great...I think you would no matter what you wear.....don't let what your (trying to be controlling) boyfriend says about your attire upset you......maybe you could tell him to keep his criticisms about your clothes to himself.....too bad that he's being such an insecure jerk.....he probably wouldn't be happy unless you wore some kind of a nuns habit.
Any office I ever worked in would send someone home to change if she came in with a skirt that short. That skirt is for clubbing, not an office.
I do think the boyfriend is rude, though.
I agree with you now. She changed the picture after I typed that comment. The outfit was laying on bed when she first opened this thread. Now that I see it on her, there's not office I've ever worked on where womeone would dress like that. It's more of a "going out" outfit, cute IMO, but is not "promiscuous" at all.
OP, I still think your boyfriend was very rude. If a boyfriend of mine ever uses the words "promiscuous" or "prostitute" to describe me, he'd have my 5 long fingers tatooed in his face for a while .
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I agree with you now. She changed the picture after I typed that comment. The outfit was laying on bed when she first opened this thread. Now that I see it on her, there's not office I've ever worked on where womeone would dress like that. It's more of a "going out" outfit, cute IMO, but is not "promiscuous" at all.
OP, I still think your boyfriend was very rude. If a boyfriend of mine ever uses the words "promiscuous" or "prostitute" to describe me, he'd have my 5 long fingers tatooed in his face for a while .
If you do that, I hope you are prepared to have his 5 fingers tattooed on your face for awhile. Not saying it's right, don't hit anyone if you don't wanna get hit back.
I'm surprised no one made a point to discuss how poorly put together the outfit is in the first place--I'm definitely no fashionista, but I'm oddly slightly bothered by that white long-sleeve under a 3/4 cardigan. First of all, the skirt is way too short for casual wear (more suitable for clubbing as other posters mentioned), and the cardigan would look more stylish if paired with a white lace camisole underneath instead + dark skinny jeans and some cute flats or sandals.
I feel your pain ppsyout, but are there other problems? On a scale from 1 to 10 (10 being the best) rate your relationship, before these two incidents occurred.
You look great...I think you would no matter what you wear.....don't let what your (trying to be controlling) boyfriend says about your attire upset you......maybe you could tell him to keep his criticisms about your clothes to himself.....too bad that he's being such an insecure jerk.....he probably wouldn't be happy unless you wore some kind of a nuns habit.
Thank you for replying. Oddly though, my bf is definitly not at all insecure. If anything, I'm the one who's insecure(at times) because of him drooling over/checking out other women.
I'm surprised no one made a point to discuss how poorly put together the outfit is in the first place--I'm definitely no fashionista, but I'm oddly slightly bothered by that white long-sleeve under a 3/4 cardigan. First of all, the skirt is way too short for casual wear (more suitable for clubbing as other posters mentioned), and the cardigan would look more stylish if paired with a white lace camisole underneath instead + dark skinny jeans and some cute flats or sandals.
Thank you for replying. Oddly though, my bf is definitly not at all insecure. If anything, I'm the one who's insecure(at times) because of him drooling over/checking out other women.
I think you'd be surprised to learn that people that need to use demeaning language in order to convey an opinion are the real insecure ones. Lowering your self-esteem and self-worth, by putting you down and making you second guess yourself, is their way of trying to control you.
Constructive criticism is welcome in a relationship and should be just that, constructive.... not destructive.
With that being said when I first saw the picture I went *GASP!* I suppose it was because of the skirt. You would have had alot of attention and stares from the opposite sex with that outfit on. I think that is why your boyfriend said that comment.
This guy sounds very blunt to me. He may have had the same reaction that I had but he just came right out and said the way he saw your outfit as.
Like alot of people said on here you cannot be over sensitive with those remarks. I don't think he was trying to be mean he just wanted to tell you how he saw you.
I am a firm believer in allowing others to wear or be whomever they want to be. For one person to wear something that I personally wouldn't wear is not for me to judge them.
However, having a girlfriend that wears an outfit like that shows she has confidence and has no problem showing off how great of a body she has. However, I would find the evening hard to enjoy watching other men gawk at the one I care about in a purely sexual way.
It's nice to have a man's perspective on this one, and your reply did make me feel better thinking that he probably didn't mean to hurt my feelings.
He always liked me to dress pretty, he wouldnt mind if I dress sexy either. So I thought his comments says.1. he doesn't respect me. 2. He doesn't care what he says might hurt me. Those facts behind the comments was what's hurting.
Bf said it's a language barrie thing, any native english speaker wouldn't take it as offensive/insulting he said.
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. I put it in the "Classy, but a little sexy class".
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