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and who are these "men" that are bypassing you for the freshly blossomed 21 year olds? My guess is that these are not men at all, but rather immature boys. Real men don't usually run after 21 year old females unless they are close to that age themselves. Real men appreciate women of any age, because they look at the person within and not the age.........
Whether or not they're real men, I personally won't be the judge; everyone has preferences. But I WILL say, what's the percentage in wishing for a man who could never want you based on one specific thing you can't change? Nothing will change his mind or his feelings and that's no problem...there are other men out there.
IMO.
Last edited by JerZ; 02-23-2012 at 03:03 PM..
Reason: Real men, not real mean! Typo
A woman is no where near her prime at 25.
Women keep getting better with self-awareness.
They may be physically hotter when they're younger, but ultimately, it's not that important.
Character is.
This is so true. Looks fade with "EVERYBODY". Which begs the question, what do you want to be left with? A person who only cares about what they look like and focuses their whole life on superficial things, or someone that is sweet, kind, generous and has a good heart? To me it's not even a question. Somebody better have some character or else I wouldn't bother. And let me make this clear. What I'm saying has nothing to do with good looking or average people. It's an all around people thing. There are very beautiful women with great hearts. As well as their are many average girls who are satans spawn.. So please don't make this a good looking/ average comparison..It's all about the insides, good looking or not.
I just had to make that claim, because I hate when people stereotype beautiful people as low character, mean, cold, etc. Then they characterize average women as the salt of the earth..That's b.s. Character is an individual thing. It has little to do with looks..
Most 40 year old women are jealous of 20-somethings, it's just they're too proud to admit it. How many billions of dollars do 40+ year old women spend on cosmetic surgery, botox, wrinkle-removing lotions, etc?? They don't spend it so they can continue to look their age, do they. Have you ever heard of a 22 year old saying she wished she could look 45?
And put a bunch of middle-aged women in a room together, within a few minutes they'll be talking about the age-old topic of an older man leaving his wife for a much younger woman, probably the most popular topic among middle-aged women. You don't find younger women talking about fear of a 50 year old woman stealing her bf.
The jealousy is one-sided
You and I hang out in very different circles.
Nobody that I know of gets botox and plastic surgery. I use cream on my face everyday with spf 15 to avoid sun exposure. Skin cancer runs in the family and I also use it because my skin is dry...other than that I have no beauty secrets or rituals to make me look younger.
And most 40-somethings are NOT jealous of a 20-something because we are settled in our own skin and have a confidence that is just not found in the 20-somethings. We've been there, done that and there's no point in repeating the past. However, I've had a LOT of younger girls say they were envious of my life...husband, house, kids, stability and enough money to do whatever the flip we want..etc. I never said they want to LOOK like us...they'll get there soon enough.
But that's the difference between your opinion and mine....you think because a male feels that looks are a top priority, that women feel the same way. You are mistaken. Of course we all want to look good for our age but most of us are smart enough to realize we WILL age.
And nobody I know has a husband that has left his wife for a younger woman either...in the majority of the failed marriages in my circle, the wife left because her husband turned into a fat, lazy slob and now he's the one crying "poor me". I think you watch too much TV.
with the quarterlife crisis comes another for twenty five year old girls everywhere; fear of fading youth. though technically we have 5 more years of perky youthfulness on our side, it is hard to look sideways when the men we want to date seem to bypass us for the freshly blossomed 21 year olds joining the dating pool.
so what do you, smart nerdy men at city-data think of 25 year old girls? Are they past their prime?How at this point in their life should they be navigating the dating pool to capitalize most of whats left of their beauty and youth?
These would be the same smart, nerdy, 50 year old men who think with their beer belly and man boobs they are a gift to women who are 25 who lust after them and not their money?
hahahahahahahaha............
PS -- Not all smart, nerdy 50 year old men have a beer belly and man boobs (disclaimer)
Can't speak for the older ladies out there but I would hope that at the age of 30 or so that whatever man you are with can at least afford to hire out the extra work and can provide you with a sense of comfort and luxury.
Seriously?!?! By age 30, I hope you "older" ladies out there can afford to provide yourselves with a sense of comfort and luxury. It is not a man's responsibility to support you and "hire out" your extra work. I would like to say to many of the posters in this thread, "The 1950's called. They would like their attitudes toward gender roles back." Sheesh....
It's seriously disturbing to me that some people actually belive that a womans peak prime is
at twenty five.
I feel the same way. This might have been true in 1950. And I'd like to say something about the sexual revolution of the 1960's. Isn't it interesting that during that era, no one was worried about whether a woman was moving "past her prime" or any such nonsense as that; all the men wanted to know was if a women was "free" "did she swing" "was she into those groovy situations" In other words, would they be permitted to use her sexually as much as they cared to. No one was worried about whether the woman was being used up.
Now we have men wondering out loud about what point of age constitutes a woman being past her "prime"
I disagree. Women are by no means past their prime at 25 years old, that is ridiculous!
They're past their prime much closer to 30.
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