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Right. That cold approach has a much better chance at a night club though.
Depends on the woman. I actually was never big on trying to meet a woman at a night club. It's a meat market, all the guys are amateurs, and within an hour all the women have their defense shields up. The best thing to do is just get wasted and make out sloppily with other wasted women.
Thanks. I think I would have started a conversation with her, but she was with her friends. Maybe instead of starting out with a comment on her looks, I could comment on something she is looking at?
You really put yourself at a 0% chance in that situation if she was with her friends at the supermarket.
Depends on the woman. I actually was never big on trying to meet a woman at a night club. It's a meat market, all the guys are amateurs, and within an hour all the women have their defense shields up. The best thing to do is just get wasted and make out sloppily with other wasted women.
So anytime I am out and about I see gorgeous women. Today I was in a department store, and saw a GORGEOUS cougar. I noticed there was no ring on her finger, so I decided to go up to her.
"Excuse me, miss? I couldn't help but notice that you are absolutely stunning, and I would be kicking myself if I didn't at least come over and introduce myself."
*Stares at me* (At this point, I'm crapping my pants, but just as i'm about to walk away, she smiles and says, "Seriously? "
"Yeah, seriously. Im Mark" She shakes my hand and tells me her name.
"Hey, Im about to head out, would you like to get a drink sometime?"
"No thank you, but I really appreciate the offer"
"Okay, have a nice day"
As I was driving away, I realized I probably should have said something about what she was buying or something, to build up rapport. Otherwise, how did I do?
I think you deserve credit for having the courage to do that.
If you want a critique I would advise to make eye contact and smile. If you get a smile back then you can move to the next phase which would be striking up a conversation. Maybe something about the store you're in or just basic "small talk". Some might call this "warm chatter" Then when the time is right, you can move to the next phase which would be something like "I've enjoyed talking to you, I don't usually do this but I'll kick myself tonight if I don't ask you if you would like to go out sometime" Then see what happens. Good Luck.
Meeting someone is a store is definately an option. I've been asked out this way before and we ended up dating for the summer.
Also don't assume that just because she's not wearing a ring that she's available.
Your whole approach to this is is just patronizing.
First you say you saw a gorgeous cougar, then call her "Miss." Just wrong. That whole line creeped me out really bad.
If you're really going to be doing this a lot more, you have to understand that most women who are out running errands will be REALLY thrown off if you come up out of the blue and give them the Don Juan treatment. So your chances are very likely that she will be, at best, surprised, or, at worst, afraid. She'll probably want to just get out of the situation.
You will have a better shot picking up a woman in a more social situation, like a party, or somewhere they kind of expect to be hit on.
As for this scenario, you could always ask for directions to something (not the bathroom!). You could comment on something she is wearing or something she's buying and ask where she got it, how she likes it, etc.
As the others have said, do not comment on her appearance.
I think you deserve credit for having the courage to do that.
Absolutely!
I've been approached twice at the grocery store, ironically when I was still married. Both times I'd just come from the gym, so in workout clothes and a little dishevelled, no jewelry on. I really admired that both guys had the nerve to approach me, and was very flattered even though I wasn't in a position to date.
And here I thought the OP caught his first cold and had some insight for the rest of us.
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Then when the time is right, you can move to the next phase which would be something like "I've enjoyed talking to you, I don't usually do this but I'll kick myself tonight if I don't ask you if you would like to go out sometime" Then see what happens. Good Luck.
