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Im 22 and have never mated before, should i just start life with a couple different females for a while then find the good girl or just go after the good one and build the family
Dating is supposed to be fun.
It's an interviewing process for relationships, marriage, whatever you choose.
If you're not enjoying your time with this person, move on.
You're not forced into being with people, especially those you're not compatible with.
As you date, you're going to learn what resonates with you, and you'll be able to define what you want in a relationship.
You usually do this by learning what you don't want.
You're 22, that's awfully young to be very serious in your search.
Learn about yourself through experiences and as you become more confident you'll find what you're looking for.
Remember, we change as we become more aware of ourselves, so what's good for you today may not be so good for you in 5 years.
As far as sex goes... you'll know when it's right.
When dating, don't force it but don't be afraid of it, either.
Make it enjoyable for both of you.
Remember the first part of my post, have fun!
Last edited by chielgirl; 02-29-2012 at 02:15 AM..
Dating is supposed to be fun.
It's an interviewing process for relationships, marriage, whatever you choose.
If you're not enjoying your time with this person, move on.
You're not forced into being with people, especially those you're not compatible with.
Remember the first part of my post, have fun!
But what exactly is fun in your mind? Would it be doing it before marriage type fun or the things you do together and that connection you only feel with the true soulamte without just having sex
I don't believe in this soulmate stuff, so that's out.
Dating is simply a means to find out about yourself and what you want in a mate.
What's fun in my mind would not resemble what's fun for you.
Remember, I'm old as sin and experienced dating in my teens and 20s for fun and learning.
My dating now is for companionship and sex; I have no desire for a relationship.
What do you find fun?
If you just want sex, go to a prostitute; if you're looking for a relationship, you date.
You go to dinner, movies, minature golf, play video games, talk over coffee, take walks, participate in sports, go to concerts, museums, ride bicycles, etc.
Whatever strikes your fancy.
Dating is exploring the universe and finding someone you want to explore that universe with.
You do many of the same things you do with your guy friends, only with a woman.
You're looking for compatibility.
Marriage is more than domestic chores and sex. But there is a lot of the domestic chores after marriage (some people tell me that sex wanes, but that wasn't my experience).
It's having a connection with someone that you can share your life with, it's a partnership.
It's all a process.
None of this is immediate; it's not a roll of the dice.
You have to decide for you what's important.
It's easier and ultimately less painful to find out about your potential mates during the dating process than making a serious commitment and realizing you were wrong down the line.
in the dating process you'll have rejection, both rejecting others and being rejected yourself.
You get up and try again.
Im 22 and have never mated before, should i just start life with a couple different females for a while then find the good girl or just go after the good one and build the family
You're not very clear on your post / ts. It would be better to re-edit what you are trying to say.
But what exactly is fun in your mind? Would it be doing it before marriage type fun or the things you do together and that connection you only feel with the true soulamte without just having sex
Let's put it this way. If you decide to look for a good girl and start a life, you can never go back and have fun with other girls. Also if you date around first, you will gain experience and learn about relationships which will help you in the long run when you decide to settle down and look for that special someone. One more thing, as you date around with no intentions of looking for "the one", you might end up finding her and it won't be premeditated or forced.
Im 22 and have never mated before, should i just start life with a couple different females for a while then find the good girl or just go after the good one and build the family
You've never "mated"? Birds mate.
That's just such an odd way to put it.
I don't know if this means you've never been on a date or you've never had sex?
Im 22 and have never mated before, should i just start life with a couple different females for a while then find the good girl or just go after the good one and build the family
Compatibility is what you want first.
Spending time together is what establishes whether you have that.
If you don't then time to move on to someone else. Don't waste time
with someone incompatible.
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Birds mate.
