WHO causes divorces? (wives, women, cheat, husbands)

[robertpolyglot]

Ok, where do I start? No statistics that I've seen published. Just an assessment of the many divorces I've known...my friends, my parents's friends, neighbors, co-workers, etc.

25%
MEN
- they are still players
- they have an addiciton
- they are abusive

25%
MEN/WOMEN equally
- "irreconcilable differences" - two people that should have never been together

50%
WOMEN
- they are still players
- they have let themselves go, not a little, but a LOT, and the guy is unhappy
- they NAG, and this ONE is BIG...even guys who are mild-mannered have walked on their domineering wives because they get fed up with it

So, see, I am saying men are MORE responsible for the divorce in SOME of the cases. I still see the nag factor or too many "honey-do" lists as the MAIN reason for divorce.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by robertpolyglot

I still see the nag factor or too many "honey-do" lists as the MAIN reason for divorce.

That's entirely possible. Naturally, these lists and nagging in general would never exist if anything was getting done.

[Whyte Byrd]

Good grief. You know, if each person looked at themselves honestly and fixed what they saw, that blame list for the opposite sex would be a helluva lot shorter.

ETA: And more realistic.

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

That's entirely possible. Naturally, these lists and nagging in general would never exist if anything was getting done.

My thoughts exactly!

How many times should one ask him to put his socks in the laundry, or do the dishes, or fix the door that he said he'd fix 6 months ago...

So, she "nags", and yet it's her fault?

Most divorces that I've seen happen because he becomes a fat, lazy slob and her requests for change go unanswered.

[West of Encino]

Money and spousal support are also reasons women divorce. But I agree with ya.

No-Fault Divorce is also the cause why women divorce for no reason.

[fleetiebelle]

Originally Posted by justthe6ofus

My thoughts exactly!

How many times should one ask him to put his socks in the laundry, or do the dishes, or fix the door that he said he'd fix 6 months ago...

So, she "nags", and yet it's her fault?

It's in the same category as dismissing anything a woman is legitimately upset about as "drama."

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by fleetiebelle

It's in the same category as dismissing anything a woman is legitimately upset about as "drama."

That, too!

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by justthe6ofus

My thoughts exactly!

How many times should one ask him to put his socks in the laundry, or do the dishes, or fix the door that he said he'd fix 6 months ago...

So, she "nags", and yet it's her fault?

Most divorces that I've seen happen because he becomes fat, lazy slob and her requests for change go unanswered.

Whaaaaat? Noooo. Men don't do that. They don't age.

[Doll Eyes]

Men -- they are never happy/satisfied with the status quo. There's always a 'hotter' woman out there then the current one. That's why they cheat constantly, grass is always greener. Most of the women I seen, would stay with their husbands if he wasn't a lie/cheat, abusive, etc. They leave them no choice but to file for divorce.

[Thursday007]

It's not WHO it's WHAT.