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Spying??? Facebook is out there for everyone to see, especially if youre in a relationship with that person. I'd have me a dang fit if my S/O posted some Sh*t like that. He doesn't repsect himself, much less her. It's called integrity "what you do when you think no one else is looking"...he lacks every bit of it.
Spying??? Facebook is out there for everyone to see, especially if youre in a relationship with that person. I'd have me a dang fit if my S/O posted some Sh*t like that. He doesn't repsect himself, much less her. It's called integrity "what you do when you think no one else is looking"...he lacks every bit of it.
yes, sure is....and your right...in every single word...
I'm not to sure what to make of my feelings of jealousy in my relationship. I've never been a jealous person before my marriage ended and don't know how to deal or discuss this with my partner. Mostly it started by me reading things on his facebook profile that i didn't quite think were appropriate for someone in a relationship to say. Like suggesting another women give him a blowjob, may have been just a joke, but I don't know that (or her) and I'm pretty sure he would take offense if I suggested something similar to a male friend. Plus recently there have been times when we've done intimate things and then I've found out he was looking at porn right before. I'm not a prude, and I realize that guys look, but the fact that it was right before makes me feel used and bad. Like it was only that good cause he wasn't thinking of me. I also have found links on the computer suggesting he has participated in live chats/ shows. I can't prove he's logged in to them cause they require a password, but I can find the links in "history". If I confront him and tell him I've looked this stuff up, and he can give me a reasonable explanation, then either I look crazy, or he learns to cover up better. Do I have a problem with trust, or do I have legit issues? He's great otherwise, is supportive, buys me ice cream when I'm sad, helps with the kids, tells me he loves me, and I'm beautiful. Helps me in every other way I can think of. I don't want to ruin the relationship simply because I'm paranoid. By the way, these things have been over the past year, not all at once. Any insight would be great, thanks in advance. R
Are you living with him? Why are you exposing your children to a potential problem when this doesn't work out? We are quick to allow ourselves to be used if we are not careful.
Soooo many men do the porn thing, and it makes relating to real women harder and harder over time.
I would never think of looking at someone's history on their computer, or their Facebook page. I judge realationships based on interaction, how I feel. If you don't think this relationship adds to your life, you should end it.
If this relationship adds to your life, keep it.
Stop spying on him. If you don't have trust, that is your problem. I think you have a low self esteem. I know I would not care if a guy looks at porn, or goes out with other women, he is free to do what he wants. After all...I know no one is better than me. Sure, people might want a "snack" at McDonald's once in awhile....but they don't go there every day...
The more confident you are, the more attractive you are.
I agree with this. Especially the trust and snooping part.
Looking at someone's FB page isn't snooping. We can all give you advice, but only you know your relationship. You can either walk away or confront him and give him a chance to explain himself.
I would never think of looking at someone's history on their computer, or their Facebook page. I judge realationships based on interaction, how I feel. If you don't think this relationship adds to your life, you should end it.
If this relationship adds to your life, keep it.
Stop spying on him. If you don't have trust, that is your problem. I think you have a low self esteem. I know I would not care if a guy looks at porn, or goes out with other women, he is free to do what he wants. After all...I know no one is better than me. Sure, people might want a "snack" at McDonald's once in awhile....but they don't go there every day...
The more confident you are, the more attractive you are.
So...him wanting a blow job from another woman is all her problem? Her low self-esteem??
Are you living with him? Why are you exposing your children to a potential problem when this doesn't work out? We are quick to allow ourselves to be used if we are not careful.
Soooo many men do the porn thing, and it makes relating to real women harder and harder over time.
Why do you want that??
DING DING DING DING!
Single mothers sometimes take such risks with their children's welfare all in an attempt to find love.
What I simply don't get is why is the OP so wrong for not liking him to look at porn. Seems like everytime a wife or gf complains about her hubby or bf looking at porn, there are a number of people in this forum that say "don't worry about it, all men look at porn." Wow, how so UNTRUE!!
And, if she suspects things are going on with him, and he outright lies about those things, she has EVERY right to snoop and see what he's up to. But, then again, if she feels like she has to do this, she has a major problem with the relationship..........with both herself and him!
Anyway, he's not the only one with a problem. She tells all of us the bad stuff about him and then turns right around and says how good he is. And, if he using that word (bj) online, I'm really starting to wonder how he talks around her and the kids
I would be very worried about the kids. OP, you really should not expose your children to your relationships at all until you know them well enough to know they have all your best interests at heart. Don't make the same mistakes so many lonely people make, otherwise you will have a life time of regrets. Don't even bother to confront him, just leave.
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