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I would venture to guess that there are many more virgins who graduate from college than you'd think. They probably don't mention it, is all. 21 is still pretty young.
You have to respect people who want to remain virgins prior to marriage, either for religious or personal reasons. It's a legitimate choice. It's amazing that some other posts need to be "condescending" about this.
However, you might discover sexual incompatibility and some weird hang-ups if you have sex beforehand, than going through with the official ceremonies and calling it quits later.
If a guy won’t have sex until marriage and it isn’t for religious reasons, any girl is going to think it’s because he has a small penis and he doesn’t want her to find out until she says her vows and is then stuck with it.
My suggestion is if you meet a girl you like enough to marry, give her the best pipe-laying she’s ever had and make her confident that she won’t spend the rest of her life unfulfilled if she spends it with you.
However, you might discover sexual incompatibility and some weird hang-ups if you have sex beforehand, than going through with the official ceremonies and calling it quits later.
It takes time to be compatible with your partner. Doesn’t matter if someone is a porn star or not as every person is different and enjoys different things. A mistake with sex can be a woman/man who thinks they know it all or have it all figured out on how to please their partner just because they thought they did a good job with their ex. Nope, the new person will be turned on differently, like different things, and so on. If a new couple with past experiences will have to adjust and get used to each other, I don’t see why it can’t be the same with a couple who decided to wait until they get married.
Heck, I don't know a woman/man who was virgin after 21.
One of my female friend is still a virgin and she's 24 but she's not waiting till marriage. She doesn't really give out the reason but it's suspected that she might be asexual.
My older male cousin was around that age the first time he brought a gf into the house. Rumor has it that she was really his first while she's an experienced woman but unfortunately it ended in a divorce. I think it might be true because he would withdraw on every social gathering if there were women around (he once told my mother ''No, I'm really shy'').
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Originally Posted by onihC
Men/women who are virgins by choice until marriage is just not that common at all
It's because there is no real reason and it would be translated as ''But I need to sign a legal paper in order to have sex'', (instead of just waiting for the right one) which makes no sense.
No and I'd recommend against anyone waiting until marriage unless you subscribe to a strict religious way of life in which your sexual satisfaction isn't important and sex is strictly for procreation.
It's just a bad idea. Sexual compatibility is one of many important factors to consider when choosing a life partner and you can't know if you're compatible until you dive in. Doesn't mean you have to sleep with every chick who comes along, just find someone who satisfies the non-physical aspects of a relationship, then explore the physical, then get married.
Heck, I don't know a woman/man who was virgin after 21. Men/women who are virgins by choice until marriage is just not that common at all.
I know it's rare, but I was one of them. (I say 'was' since I haven't been 21 in a long time.)
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