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Just posing a question for those that don't. Assuming that you and your SO don't live together. If you do and you don't talk to each other every day at least once, I think there's issues there.
I've always thought talking to SO's and family members, at least growing up, was a way to share your day, like a diary, without writing in it.
If you are in a relationship and you don't actually talk to each other every day and it still works, feel free to share.
I mean in a committed relationship, not a part time lover, FWB or mistress deal.
I would shoot myself if dating SO required we speak every day. I am looking at the clock or calendar to determine I have something to say? What I have to say is so important that it can't wait until we see each other? I wish I were that clever.
Anyway it has been a long time since DH and I were just dating. No we did not speak every day. We had no schedule. We spoke when we spoke.
You know, if you are in a relationship with someone who is amazing, then you want to speak with that person every day. You never get tired of that person's conversation.
I can think of a handful of days in our entire life together when we didn't speak. And that was because I was overseas on assignment with a 12-hour time difference between the two of us. Even then, even though I was in an incredible place, I felt sad and empty that I couldn't share it with her.
But if you're not a soldier stationed in some distant part of the world, and if you're in a relationship where you can speak to your S/O every day and choose not to, then I would question whether this is the right relationship for you.
You have difficulty with it, which is why you are on the board. They don't. Stop playing 'chase the rabbit.' Either you will find the relationship redeeming or won't. Communication is key, but being able to be with someone in silence means you have truly met them and are at peace. Ask them to give you a time when you can talk about the discomfort you feel in the void of communication. It is both of your problem and you both need to solve it.
We are in the process of moving, she has work. We talk every few days, we text a lot. We both long to be together. It will only be this way a few more weeks. Been 4 months now
I feel like it really depends on what phase of the relationship you are in. If you are just starting off, seeing each other a couple of times a week is normal. Communication should come natural, not forced. You should want to do it. I can't imagine being in a committed relationship and only talk a few times a week.
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Originally Posted by Kin Atoms
You have difficulty with it, which is why you are on the board. They don't. Stop playing 'chase the rabbit.' Either you will find the relationship redeeming or won't. Communication is key, but being able to be with someone in silence means you have truly met them and are at peace. Ask them to give you a time when you can talk about the discomfort you feel in the void of communication. It is both of your problem and you both need to solve it.
Well, we just started. So I don't think it would be a great idea, to bring it up after just 5 weeks. Plus the main reason why, there have been a few days when we don't talk, text, email at all, is she's been working 12 hour days, plus almost an 1 hour commute each way.
If I'm still lucky enough to have her interest in almost 3 months and it's still like this, I may talk about it. I would hope by that time, she will just want to do that, talk to me, on the days where she works that long, without me mentioning it.
On the days she doesn't work that long, we've talked everyday except once.
Hope I don't jinx everything by mentioning all this online.
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You know, if you are in a relationship with someone who is amazing, then you want to speak with that person every day. You never get tired of that person's conversation.
I can think of a handful of days in our entire life together when we didn't speak. And that was because I was overseas on assignment with a 12-hour time difference between the two of us. Even then, even though I was in an incredible place, I felt sad and empty that I couldn't share it with her.
But if you're not a soldier stationed in some distant part of the world, and if you're in a relationship where you can speak to your S/O every day and choose not to, then I would question whether this is the right relationship for you.
Agreed. I can think of something about every 5 minutes that I could share with my wife.
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