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Whole new world here....is an Interent date automatically a Dutch-date or is there the assumption the man will pick up? I guess one would have to predetermine this prior to the date.
And it sounds as though it went south way before the bill arrived so chalk it up to lesson learned and next time, discuss the payment plan before the date.
Sounds like this guy was more confused than dumb. You probably threw him off with the extra amount you gave him and he didn't want to appear to be a cheapskate so he handed it all over. Or maybe he was feeling sick and wanted to get up of there, fast!!!!
Whole new world here....is an Interent date automatically a Dutch-date or is there the assumption the man will pick up? I guess one would have to predetermine this prior to the date.
And it sounds as though it went south way before the bill arrived so chalking up to lesson learned and next time, discuss the payment plan before the date.
I never discuss how we're going to pay beforehand. On every first date I have that involves a joint bill, I go for my purse when the bill comes and the guy either says something along the lines of "I'm treating, don't worry about it" or I pay my half. Most guys I've been out with will pay the whole thing, but I don't assume that they will which is why I make an offer to pay for myself.
I just went on a date with a woman that I met on the internet. The date was ok, nothing great. The waitress, however, was smoking hot. She was so hot that I wanted to make a good impression on her and make her believe that I was wealthy. I would do this by giving a nice tip. Unforunately I am not wealthy and only had $20. The check was $21 so I made my date give me $12. She thought that she was paying for her share of the check but I instead used her money for a generous tip for the waitress.
The waitress now thinks that I am loaded and we are going out on a date next week. I need to ask my dad if I can borrow his car because mine is a piece of Sh*t.
1. Not accept it and pay the whole thing himself.
2. Take only $5 and give me $7 back.
3. Add $5 to the $20 and keep the $7 for himself.
4. Give the server $32, wait for the change, and take whatever he wanted back.
I would've preferred options 1, 2, 4, and 3 in that order.
hey, im all for the dude footing the bill on the first date/first few dates and would be put off if he didn't at least offer. you said there was clearly no chemistry, though, so i think that makes things different. it was nice of him to offer to pay for the meal and only have you leave the tip at that point and i do think thats what he was doing.
You put in $10.50 for your half of the bill plus $1.50 for your share of the tip. He put in $20. I'd say you paid your share and he overpaid his. He was likely just trying to impress you. The money isn't the issue here. You didn't really like him well enough to want a second date. Let it go.
You put in $10.50 for your half of the bill plus $1.50 for your share of the tip. He put in $20. I'd say you paid your share and he overpaid his. He was likely just trying to impress you. The money isn't the issue here. You didn't really like him well enough to want a second date. Let it go.
I don't think he was trying to impress me, and if he was, he failed miserably. If he was trying to impress me, he would've paid the entire bill plus tip.
I rarely feel an instant connection on first Internet dates, so I don't expect it and will usually give guys a second chance as long as there are no major dealbreakers. While I have accepted second dates with guys who did not pay for the first date, this particular guy's choice not to pay the bill (or his inability to pay) combined with other things about him definitely make me not interested in a second date.
1. Not accept it and pay the whole thing himself.
2. Take only $5 and give me $7 back.
3. Add $5 to the $20 and keep the $7 for himself.
4. Give the server $32, wait for the change, and take whatever he wanted back.
I would've preferred options 1, 2, 4, and 3 in that order.
Never have expectations when you had over money. You hand it over, and that is the end of it. Anyway, it was a simple date, who are you to have a mental list of how the guy should treat the 12 bucks? Relax and have fun, stop looking reasons to pick at the men you date.
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