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Have you ever dated someone who after a year (or years) of dating still wanted to "keep things feeling new", by only wanting to hang out on the weekends (or 2-3 times a week). Someone who wants to feel like he/she has a chance to miss you a couple days a week.
I guess I could understand taking things slow and getting to know one another the first few months, but keeping this up after a year or two...?
Does this scream a fear of commitment? How can this possibly translate into a real (see you everyday-move in together) scenario?
Have you ever experienced this? How did the relationship progress?
Have you ever dated someone who after a year (or years) of dating still wanted to "keep things feeling new", by only wanting to hang out on the weekends (or 2-3 times a week). Someone who wants to feel like he/she has a chance to miss you a couple days a week.
I guess I could understand taking things slow and getting to know one another the first few months, but keeping this up after a year or two...?
Does this scream a fear of commitment? How can this possibly translate into a real (see you everyday-move in together) scenario?
Have you ever experienced this? How did the relationship progress?
It screams married or in another relationship that takes precedence over yours.
Yup, I agree. If you're happy together and deeply in love, why wouldn't you want to see each other every day? Or at least a heckuva lot more frequently than 2 times a week.
No, I've never been in a relationship like that and I don't think I'd want to be. The bf of an acquaintance of mine is a firefighter and b/c of his schedule they live together and still don't get to see each other all that often but it's because of their circumstances, not by choice.
Have you ever dated someone who after a year (or years) of dating still wanted to "keep things feeling new", by only wanting to hang out on the weekends (or 2-3 times a week). Someone who wants to feel like he/she has a chance to miss you a couple days a week.
I guess I could understand taking things slow and getting to know one another the first few months, but keeping this up after a year or two...?
Does this scream a fear of commitment? How can this possibly translate into a real (see you everyday-move in together) scenario?
Have you ever experienced this? How did the relationship progress?
It sounds like that someone, may have a couple of other "someones" on the side. Usually if you love someone, you want to see them more than not. However, it is good to have time to yourself. I can understand that. I am not all over my gf like a whooped dog. And neither is she! Weekends, we're lucky to do one thing together (usually dinner and a movie), but that hasn't been lately since there has been nothing good to see. However, we live together though. So it's not like we don't know what each other are up to at 2 in the morning.
But people who always want that "unrealistic" feeling of being "in love" all the time, are not being realistic. Those are usually the same people who move from one partner to another, because the minute that type of feeling declines a bit, they think that they are falling out of love. Relationships take a lot of work and patience. Your not always going to be gaga over each other all the time. That's why it's good to shake things up.
What works for my girl and I is that we have other lives. I spend a lot of time with my friends and family. And so does she! There is never a thing "either" one of us can't do without the other. I am a firm believer that this is a healthy way of doing things. I couldn't be with someone who would smother me, and I don't think my girl could either. My whole family is sort of like this. My dad and mom are like this. My mom does what she wants when she wants. Probably where I got this from. She says she loves being married to my father, because he lets her do whatever. She couldn't imagine not being with him. My sister and her husband are like replica's of my mother and father. They are the same way too. I am the exact same way as well. So it must be a family thing. My parents have been married 42 years. My sister is on her second marriage and she's been married 11. her first husband "smothered her"-go figure why he's her ex. I've been with the same girl for 7. It seems to work for all of us.
Yes, sounds like someone who has other people on the side. I cannot imagine a healthy relationship needing to be kept "new" by greatly limiting contact.
Even if not, that does not sound like a promising LTR to me. Without an artificial influence like distance, I am not sure how that relationship would make it for 1 or 2 years to reach this point.
He has extreme anxiety (claustrophobic feeling) when he is with someone everyday. We tried it for a while and it completely deteriorated him mentally and emotionally (we broke up for a couple months afterwards). I dont know what the problem is but he lives alone and has for a while (has never lived with someone outside his parents-back before college). He's super social and outgoing but feels overwhelmed a lot in relationships where there isn't some sort of frequent distance (missing each other).
I definitely know he doesn't have someone on the side because he can barely handle one relationship.
That makes it sound like he is in need of professional, psychological help. A normal, socially comfortable person should not turn into a wreck because they see someone they love dearly on a daily basis.
That makes it sound like he is in need of professional, psychological help. A normal, socially comfortable person should not turn into a wreck because they see someone they love dearly on a daily basis.
He did see a psychologist who put him on anti-anxiety meds, but he ended up resenting me for it, since I suggested he see someone. So he stopped going.
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