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Yes OP you are immature
Yes you are needy
Yes you are insecure
This guy is not that into you, and you can't force someone to act in a way that they are unwilling to do. It is not only childish to call someone (who you say you love) a name because they won't meet your demands, it is also abusive.
You need to do a lot of work on yourself to get to a healthier place. Your threads are becoming predictable and repetitive. Just get over it already and work on youself so that you don't continue to attract emotionally unavailable men while expecting them to fulfill your needs. It's insanity.
I'm wrestling with weather or not he's into me....He has never seriouly dated anyone since divorce until he met me. He wants a family with me. He goes out 5am in the morning to get pain killers for me. He takes me on trips. He would show affection in public. I feel happy with him when we don't fight.
Being in my 30's, I still am very inexperiecied in dating. So I guess I just don't know when to give up.
With every bit of new information, I get a little confused.
How about if you help us out by listing all the things you love about him and all the things you don't love about him, then we'll get a better sense of the complete picture.
I'm wrestling with weather or not he's into me....He has never seriouly dated anyone since divorce until he met me. He wants a family with me. He goes out 5am in the morning to get pain killers for me. He takes me on trips. He would show affection in public. I feel happy with him when we don't fight.
Being in my 30's, I still am very inexperiecied in dating. So I guess I just don't know when to give up.
Let me just say that I have been married for 49 yrs this year and the rules for a sucessful marriage never do anything that you would not want your wife to do. and most importantly, never leave your wife or husband without giving him/her a kiss!. Dosen't matter where you are, because in this life , this world just think how you would feel if you never saw him/her again, if he or her died or got killed ? If this were to happen you would never forgive yourself. Additionally advice from a life'er. no mater what the issue, never go to bed with a kiss/ I love you , this resolves a lot of issues.
With every bit of new information, I get a little confused.
How about if you help us out by listing all the things you love about him and all the things you don't love about him, then we'll get a better sense of the complete picture.
Thank you, it's a good suggestion. Making a list would help myself to see things more clear too.
Being together 2 years, there's definitly good times too. So I'm confused.
Things I love about him.
1. Happy person, laid back. Don't hold angry long.
2. Responsible to his family, he's being supporting his low income sister finacially for years.
3. Smart and funny. He always have funny stories to tell which make our road trips full of laugh.
4. Share house chores.
5. very honest, never lie.
6. Don't know if this should be seen as important. but it's important to me that I'm physically attracted to him.
Things I don't love about him
1. in his own world too much( sports, stocks), doesn't pay much attention to me.
2. not quality time together except for some weekends.
Thank you, it's a good suggestion. Making a list would help myself to see things more clear too.
Being together 2 years, there's definitly good times too. So I'm confused.
Things I love about him.
1. Happy person, laid back. Don't hold angry long.
2. Responsible to his family, he's being supporting his low income sister finacially for years.
3. Smart and funny. He always have funny stories to tell which make our road trips full of laugh.
4. Share house chores.
5. very honest, never lie.
6. Don't know if this should be seen as important. but it's important to me that I'm physically attracted to him.
Things I don't love about him
1. in his own world too much( sports, stocks), doesn't pay much attention to me.
2. not quality time together except for some weekends.
3. not much intamacy in the day to day life.
3. he never admit of being wrong.
4. everything has to work around his clock.
I am sorry to say, he really isn't that crazy about you, or just too crazy about himself (from 1,2,3). Luckily for you, this ain't a bad thing at all. He is way too immature for his age (30+)(4) and very self-centered (4, 5). Of course, he has done some nice things for you (trips, painkillers), but those seem to be few and far in between.
Trust me, you don't love him or want him, and you can do better than that.
I talked to him about that, when I first mentioned, he would deny that he doesnt want to hug/kiss me, and say he would do it. But then he still wont do it. So when i mention again he got mad and says I pick up fights and he tired of hearing me nagging.
Whether this guy is for you or not is not where I am coming from. I am coming from another angle. You want hugs. He doesn't. What makes you more right, necessarily, than him?You ARE nagging him. No one likes nagging. Find another way to meet on COMMON ground.
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