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Rubbish. I compliment women and men i know if they're looking good. Just because i pay a compliment it doesn't mean i want anything.
The OP's example was about being called "cute" and complimenting specifically on looks (not, say, on their outfit).
So you can walk up to a non-relative woman and say "You're cute" just to be nice and it is not at all flirtatious?
The OP's example was about being called "cute" and complimenting specifically on looks (not, say, on their outfit).
So you can walk up to a non-relative woman and say "You're cute" just to be nice and it is not at all flirtatious?
Yes, though i assume you don't feel you can. Fair enough.
Interesting. I think there are many women who would assume (like the OP) that you are hitting on them.
Before my initial post i asked my wife what she thought, she said she found it complimentary when it happened to her. I then asked her how she felt about me doing it to other woman, she said that it wasn't a problem. I also asked her what her friends and colleagues at work thought of it and it would seem they think it's nice when i do it.
As all relevant parties seem to be happy with it i think i'll carry on.
Honestly, I don't think this is to presumptuous on the woman's part. Maybe the compliment was harmless, but as a man...I know it almost certainly was a lead in. I really only have ever done something like this when I've wanted to date the woman.
I might compliment my female relatives if the situation calls for it and rarely female acquaintances if pressed to by the situation, but its something I tend to avoid. As an unavailable man, there is really nothing good that can come from this. Even if I was available and looking, I'd only do this to women I was interested in because I don't want to give anyone false ideas or create bad situations for no reason.
Before my initial post i asked my wife what she thought, she said she found it complimentary when it happened to her. I then asked her how she felt about me doing it to other woman, she said that it wasn't a problem. I also asked her what her friends and colleagues at work thought of it and it would seem they think it's nice when i do it.
As all relevant parties seem to be happy with it i think i'll carry on.
Is it because you're all English and "cute" has a slightly different connotation...LOL.. I'm glad it works out for all of you. I will also ask my hubby this question, though I already know my answer. It would be a definite problem if he walked up to another woman and said, "You're Cute." And I'm not even the jealous type.
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Originally Posted by j_jimerino
but as a man...I know it almost certainly was a lead in. I really only have ever done something like this when I've wanted to date the woman.
Yes.... This is how I think 99.9% of heterosexual American men think. Maybe English men don't think this way.
Is it because you're all English and "cute" has a slightly different connotation...LOL.. I'm glad it works out for all of you. I will also ask my hubby this question, though I already know my answer. It would be a definite problem if he walked up to another woman and said, "You're Cute." And I'm not even the jealous type.
That could well be true, it could also be that i have a big grin while i do it.
Before my initial post i asked my wife what she thought, she said she found it complimentary when it happened to her. I then asked her how she felt about me doing it to other woman, she said that it wasn't a problem. I also asked her what her friends and colleagues at work thought of it and it would seem they think it's nice when i do it.
As all relevant parties seem to be happy with it i think i'll carry on.
I think there is a difference between going up to someone you know at a function and saying, "Well, don't you look stunning!" and going up to a stranger at a bar and saying, "Hello, beautiful." The first one I would take the compliment and smile! The second one - I would probably politely let him know I'm married!
I think there is a difference between going up to someone you know at a function and saying, "Well, don't you look stunning!" and going up to a stranger at a bar and saying, "Hello, beautiful." The first one I would take the compliment and smile! The second one - I would probably politely let him know I'm married!
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