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Hello everyone my name is Helena, i'm 22 and I'm new here... I'd like some of your time to tell me what you think about my 'tricky' situation. So here's the deal. There's this boy in my life that is into me for 15 years now... He's always been telling me how he feels about me and he always said he wanted to be with me but I never really gave him a chance even though I kinda liked him too. I can't really figure out why I didn't give him a try, something was just holding me back. A few days ago that I saw him again he still seemed very interested in me...like..very !! Plus he told me again, it wasn't plain flirting....It was love confession once again ! But......this time, the thing is he is in a relationship for over a year now. At first I thought I wouldn't do anything since a) I must have not given him a chance because maybe i'm not so into him and b) because of his girlfriend. However, I changed my mind, probably because the girlfriend situation got me intrigued. But still don't know whether I should do something with him... I mean I'm wondering if he wants something casual or if he has serious feelings for me as he always claimed he had. I fear that those feelings might have gone away now and he wants something casual, which is something i'm in no way interested in !!! Still, I can't believe that feelings of 15 years could have just gone away... I mean it's like a whole life ! What does he want in your opinion and what should I do ??
yeah.. in fact the first recollection i have of this ''thing'' is him giving me a flower when he was 7 and calling me beautiful haha ! i know it may sound silly...but it's actually kinda sweet how he's been holding onto me all these years...
Tell you this, he's in a relationship with another woman for a year and he's flirting with you. That just tells you the kinda guy he is. Forget the "love" stuff that would "predate" his current relationship, if he's doing that with his chick now, what makes you think he won't be doing it to you in the future?
well i guess, the fact that he's been claiming all these years to have feelings for me...for real. and i believe him. i just don't know if he has those feelings right now that he's in a relationship...
well i guess, the fact that he's been claiming all these years to have feelings for me...for real. and i believe him. i just don't know if he has those feelings right now that he's in a relationship...
If he's telling you RIGHT NOW that he does, then he does have feelings for you. My thing is, he's doing this while in a relationship with someone else so ask yourself if he'll do the same to you. He has given you no indication that he won't.
You're going down a road you don't want to be on...no one wins in this situation.
well i guess, the fact that he's been claiming all these years to have feelings for me...for real. and i believe him. i just don't know if he has those feelings right now that he's in a relationship...
Here's the deal. People fall in love. But when that love is not reciprocated, they sometimes convince themselves it was not to be and find someone new. But those feelings often do not go away, but lie dormant beneath the surface of the heart. After all the world is filled with stories of elderly people who life separated from their first loves, only to reconnect years later and marry when a spouse had died.
In that sense, this guy may be in the same shoes. He found a girlfriend, but knows you're the one he wants. That's not a bad thing, you know. He's not married to her. And if he still has a thing for you, that's not an indication of bad character. That's just life and being human.
So here's what you do. Tell him that you're not dating anyone who is currently in a relationship. That way, you leave the door open and see if he walks through it.
yes exactly that's what i was thinking cpg35223 ! i mean, i'm not gonna act on it...i'm just gonna lay my cards and say what I want and i'll leave the rest to him..
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