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Guys, how would you feel if you met a girl and then after you've been dating for a while and have feelings for her you discovered (she never told you but someone else informed you) that she used to be a completely different skin tone? Would you feel betrayed she never told you? Would you break up with her?
Are you dating a person or a color palette? Who cares? Unless this creates a health issue or is indicative of some kind of emotional or mental disorder, it really should not matter!
It's an important issue for me. If I were to completely lighten my skin, and I meet a guy, and he finds out that I used to be dark, I wonder would that be an issue.
I think it's sad you want to lighten you skin.. Why can't you accept yourself the way you are...
And wouldn't you want to be upfront with him, saying you were Black, but lightened your skin, so you look white.... Why Lie about it in the first place...
It's an important issue for me. If I were to completely lighten my skin, and I meet a guy, and he finds out that I used to be dark, I wonder would that be an issue.
1. He won't ask.
2. You need.to work on your self esteem; lightening your skin will not fill the hole inside of you.
Guys, how would you feel if you met a girl and then after you've been dating for a while and have feelings for her you discovered (she never told you but someone else informed you) that she used to be a completely different skin tone? Would you feel betrayed she never told you? Would you break up with her?
Wouldn't matter to most men. You are the person in front of me at the time I see you, not what you used to be.
Thought about what nyanna's been bringing it up. Skin tone has never played nuch of a part in who I find attractive. I always say I know what looks good to me when I see it. Ive seen very dark woman who look good to me and even some lighter women that do too. I used to not care for really pale woman but Ive come around there too.
Where I do think skin tone can pay off is when it compliments natural features or the shape of a womans face, just like make up. Sometimes a womans face may look more attractive with darker skin tones and some with lighter tones. I know arms and legs, to me, always look better darker. I wonder what a photographer might say?
Nyanna ... yes, I would have second thoughts about you if I heard this. NOT because I was ?bothered about your skin color before.... but because YOU are bothered by your skin tone now.
I obviously don't know you, or your story.... but you need to surround yourself with more supportive friends/family.... because whoever you seem to be exposing yourself to now seems pretty damaging to your self-image.
Maybe a therapist would help?
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