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Say you are deciding to go on a cruise vacation and want to take your girlfriend... she cannot afford it but you figure you will take her along since you do like her company. However, since now you are going to absorb the cost of 2 instead of one, to save money you opt for the less expensive inside room (no windows), you figure it's a good compromise.
You announce the surprise vacation to your GF, she is happy but not too thrilled about the inside room and complains about it...says you should go for the more expensive window rooms since she knows you can afford it.
How would you feel about it?
I think there is a bigger issue to address . There is a red flag: She is using an excuse that she cant afford it because she knows you can.
***** that girl is so ungrateful. I will try to come up with something to help my man out. Something is wrong with her.
We often choose an inside cabin because it means we can do something else with the money saved. After all, a cabin is mostly for sleeping. There's too much to do to spend it in the cabin when you're not sleeping, showering, or cuddling.
Once I was single, which would be shortly after hearing that complaint, I'd get a much nicer room and plan on having a good time without that ingrate there to ruin it.
I'm wondering if the girlfriend is aware that the room selection is due to the fact that OP is paying her way. She definitely could've been more gracious, but sounds like the OP could have finessed it better. If the trip was presented as "I'd love for you to go on this trip with me, and I know you can't chip in, so I got an inexpensive room to save money," she might have had a different reaction versus "Surprise, I'm taking you on a cruise and booked the cheapest room!"
HUGE big waving red flag. I've been on a few crusies and I too prefer a room with a window, but it isn't a huge deal and I'd never EVER say something about it to a guy who surprised me with a free vacation. You aren't even in the room that much except to sleep so it isn't a big deal. You can go out on deck anytime and see the view.
If I were you, i would sit her down and have a conversation about this. Tell her exactly what you think about it, how it makes you feel and where to go from here.
I think sitting down and talking about one's feelings has to be the most overrated move in the history of relationships.
In a situation like this, you don't talk about your feelings. You simply say, "Really? REALLY? I manage to scrimp and save to do something nice for the both of us and you nitpick the accommodations? Fine. We won't go at all. I'm canceling the trip."
If the trip was presented as "I'd love for you to go on this trip with me, and I know you can't chip in, so I got an inexpensive room to save money," she might have had a different reaction versus "Surprise, I'm taking you on a cruise and booked the cheapest room!"
There is no amount of rewording or blaming the OP that can excuse her behavior. None. If someone started a sentence with "Surprise, I'm taking you on a cruise," I'd be too excited and grateful to give a crap what kind of room he booked.
Oh yucko! Get rid of that ungrateful soul before you're unable to resist temptation to throw her overboard.
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