Women that come on too strong - do they chase guys away? (dating, how to)
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So one of my friends had a situation where she met a guy, and I think he liked her (at least lukewarm interest), but for whatever reason he just disappeared after the first few dates. She has been overanalyzing the situation and thinking that maybe she came on too strong and it scared him so he's ignoring her now, even after he told her they'd talk soon (it's been 3 weeks).
Based on what I know, I don't think she overdid anything--did the basic thank you follow up notes, and they were only talking once a week. I think since it was her first time dating too she wasn't sure what to expect from his end (how often he'd call, how to tell if he's interested, etc) because every person's standards are different. Basically, she wasn't into that "playing games" sorta thing, but I don't think (based on what she told me) she was overly aggressive either.
That got me wondering-in those situations do guys ever come around (if they like someone a lot, but just want some space) or do they just write that girl off their list as a crazy/clingy person despite any initial potential they saw? Can they ever be friends again? Guys perspectives especially appreciated.
So one of my friends had a situation where she met a guy, and I think he liked her (at least lukewarm interest), but for whatever reason he just disappeared after the first few dates. She has been overanalyzing the situation and thinking that maybe she came on too strong and it scared him so he's ignoring her now, even after he told her they'd talk soon (it's been 3 weeks).
Based on what I know, I don't think she overdid anything--did the basic thank you follow up notes, and they were only talking once a week. I think since it was her first time dating too she wasn't sure what to expect from his end (how often he'd call, how to tell if he's interested, etc) because every person's standards are different. Basically, she wasn't into that "playing games" sorta thing, but I don't think (based on what she told me) she was overly aggressive either.
That got me wondering-in those situations do guys ever come around (if they like someone a lot, but just want some space) or do they just write that girl off their list as a crazy/clingy person despite any initial potential they saw? Can they ever be friends again? Guys perspectives especially appreciated.
Did she give him the milk for free? If so, he may have gotten every bit out of it that he wanted.
From a guys perspective, I get scared away very quickly if a girl comes on too strong. There is a chance to remain friends, but usually it doesn't work. The kind of girls that come on too strong appear desperate. Guys don't like desperate.
Did she give him the milk for free? If so, he may have gotten every bit out of it that he wanted.
It wasn't for free. The guy has been taking her out, or so it seems.
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The kind of girls that come on too strong appear desperate. Guys don't like desperate.
If a guy likes the girl and vice versa, her/him doing his part won't look as desperate. If someone does not like the other person then seeing them try will be seen as desperate.
It wasn't for free. The guy has been taking her out, or so it seems.
If a guy likes the girl and vice versa, her/him doing his part won't look as desperate. If someone does not like the other person then seeing them try will be seen as desperate.
LOL. Taking somebody out to dinner does not qualify as paying for the milk, unless she is a prostitute. I am talking about commitment and/or some sort of future expectations being set. Not just dinner and a hook-up.
I was referring to somebody coming on too strong. It is different from person to person what "too strong" is. Desperate is how one appears (regardless of truth) IF they come on too strong. Your point is arguing something totally different. What one sees as desperate.
Hard to say without knowing EXACTLY what she said. If she sent him a simple, "Hi, had a great time. Thanks again." then that's not coming off strong at all.
I had a guy friend who dated a girl a few times and she started talking marriage, wanting 2.6 kids, house with picket fence, yadda yadda...now maybe THAT was a little aggressive lol
Well when I said thank you notes they were like thanks emails/texts for taking her out, had a good time, lets do something again, etc - isn't that a norm after a date? That's not overdoing it, I don't think.
I don't think she should wait around for him to call, cause it looks like he won't. I think him ending on "we'll talk soon" but pretty much ignoring her is a bit immature and rude though, especially if he has no intention of seeing her again (he could just say nice meeting you but it isn't gonna work out)...but only time will tell.
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