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It isn't just my conclusion, he told me yesterday he had a girlfriend when I asked if he was going to crawl all over her like the other guys are, and today he told me he was going to try and "hook-up" with her. Pretty black and white.
Pretty black and white to you...but you didn't mention that in your original post.
Why not just ask the guy how his girlfriend is when he's talking to her so she'll get the hint and just get to know her better.
Never even gave that so much as a thought! Sometimes the most obvious answer is right under a persons nose. So whats everyone think of this idea? Good? Bad? You know, just kinda bring it up all innocent like......
I'll go up to him while he's talking to her, join in the conversation, wait for some kind of lull, and say " so hows your girlfriend been man, what was her name again?" Sounds like a plan. Maybe I could even recruit one of the older guys who work there to do this for me, keep my hands clean all the way around.
{ this all seems kind of middle schoolish but I honestly don't care. I think I'll do it for the lulz if for no other reason }
Last edited by WhipperSnapper 88; 06-26-2012 at 11:29 PM..
Never even gave that so much as a thought! Sometimes the most obvious answer is right under a persons nose. So whats everyone think of this idea? Good? Bad? You know, just kinda bring it up all innocent like......
I'll go up to him while he's talking to her, join in the conversation, wait for some kind of lull, and say " so hows your girlfriend been man, what was her name again?" Sounds like a plan. Maybe I could even recruit one of the older guys who work there to do this for me, keep my hands clean all the way around.
{ this all seems kind of middle schoolish but I honestly don't care. I think I'll do it for the lulz if for no other reason }
I think you trying to cut someone else down is going to backfire because she is going to read between the lines, no matter how you do it. You are going to make yourself look like a jealous school-boy desperate to win her over.
Why not just leave her alone to do her job.
This whole situation doesn't seem middle schoolish...it IS!
Just be friendly, and give her time to get acclimated to her new environment and her new job.
Shoving a piece of paper in her face stating all the guys are losers is a sure way to get tossed in the trashcan, it's a bit passive aggressive as well, like you expect her to call you. You need to chill out. Its like you are in a race to the bottom. It's been 5 days. Try making eye contact and go from there.
Be friendly, like you said. She probably can't tell you guys apart yet and it's way too early for her to "date" any of you, if at all. Usually I like the smart, helpful guys who have quiet confidence.
I didn't read all the follow up posts, but from the first post here's my response:
Play it cool. Don't do anything. Ignore her for the time being.
Now all these women are probably saying to just tell her how you feel and ask her on a date and let her decide. I say eff that. If a girl gets a lot of attention in life she'll come to expect it. Be different. Be the guy that DOESN'T chase her. Don't approach her. If you happen to work with her or are talking with her, be funny, joke around with her, then walk away. She'll wonder why you're not like all the other guys drooling over her.
If she wants the dbag who cheats on his girlfriend than that's her mistake to live with and she'll suffer the consequences. It's out of your control at that point.
Otherwise, slowly be funny around her, act like you have a careless but humored approach to life. If there are ANY other girls where you work, attractive or not, talk to them in front of her. If you talk to other girls that are even half as good looking as this girl, she'll wonder why you're not hitting on her. These girls at your age aren't exactly intelligent and you'll have to build her interest in you and get in her head.
Act like every other guy or make a strong move like giving her your number will only make you lose. If you have a chance with her at all it will be with this approach. Take your time, make her laugh, flirt a little, but always be the one to walk away and never ask her out. If she's interested she'll find a way to let you know because what you're doing will have her confused and interested in you. Do NOT do her favors, do NOT tell her how you feel, do NOT "go for broke" and ask her out or give her your number with some stupid message about how the other guy is a dbag and you're better.
Wow. Does this workplace have NO sexual harrassment policy at all? You guys are acting like a pack of horny wolves. I hope someone gets reported so there is at least ONE standard of professional behaviour being demonstrated.
Do the woman a favour and leave her in peace, please!
I am a not so-bad-looking-female in a mostly male work environment. The original note sounded a bit hostile, and that would scare me and make me avoid you.
Give it time. Get it set in your mind to impress her with your work ethic. If you are doing well at work and are getting noticed for it, than most likely she will come to you more for work related information, which also leaves more opportunity for non-work related converstation.
God, let the poor girl work in peace. And I say this as someone who met her SO at work.
There's nothing wrong (well, usually) with an office romance blossoming, but bombarding a woman none of you really know just because she's pretty and the office well has been dry until now is rude, unprofessional and sleazy.
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