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Old 07-29-2013, 01:40 PM
 
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Any ladies here that are in their 20's, especially early-mid 20's: Do not, I repeat, DO NOT settle.

The demand for women is high. The supply is limited. Even attractive men can struggle to get a decent looking girl. Go to any club, bar, and you'll see what I mean. Any young lady who is even AVERAGE LOOKING will get PLENTY of attention from men.

It is a great thing for us, but it can be a bad thing too, because there are obviously a lot of creeps/men who only want sex. HOWEVER, there are still a lot of men who are not just allll about sex, but also who are desperate for relationships.

Online dating is another great channel to display the attention we receive. If you're even average looking, join, and enjoy the 100's of messages you'll receive. However, I do not recommend online dating for anything more than an ego boost, unless you are only looking to hook up. The amount of desperate creeps on there is just hilarious.

To me, when it comes to dating for us young ladies, I think it is all about seeing lots of guys, and simply weeding out a bunch of them. Obviously weed out any that are only interested in sex. If the man is attractive, nice and caring, but does not have a good job/makes very little money? If you don't want to hurt his feelings, don't lead him on too much, and weed him out. You can find a man that is attractive, nice and caring, and has a good career/lots of things going for him -- and no, it won't take that much searching, trust me. Plenty of my girl friends have dated men and gone through breakups, only to have other men lined up to date them. Some of the poor men struggle to move on from the breakup, but it can be very easy for us. It's great to have options.

As a final note: I know a lot of things I say here may upset young men, as obviously not everyone is perfect. And heck, I am not saying us average to attractive looking young ladies all deserve a Brad Pitt -- but just know that you can do pretty freaking good in today's dating market and I know from experience... it took some time to find him, but my fiance is my superman.
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Old 07-29-2013, 01:47 PM
 
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Honestly don't think ANY MAN with any level of self-esteem will be upset by your post. ALL ATTENTION FROM MEN IS NOT GOOD ATTENTION.
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Old 07-29-2013, 01:49 PM
 
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The demand for women is high. The supply is limited.
at the ages you're talking, 20 - 25, i think you are definitely right.

however i'm not totally clear what you mean by settling.
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Old 07-29-2013, 01:50 PM
 
Location: moved
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An excellent, mordant, tongue-in-cheek satire written by a wily man!
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Old 07-29-2013, 01:50 PM
 
Location: southern california
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good post. yes online dating is the casino of dating and the women are the dealers. if you want to be fleeced guys go online. what i am seeing with young women is its easy to get a man, requires little talent but much harder to keep one. this is the area that needs attentions girls. and the reason most of you will end up unmarried or divorced. i am afraid the divorce game has run its race , guys are on to marital industrial complex, too many divorce law suits and crippling child support payments girls . the party is over.
good luck on not settling. i have noticed there is an avalanche of 2's out there looking for 10 man on eharmony.
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Old 07-29-2013, 01:54 PM
 
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at the ages you're talking, 20 - 25, i think you are definitely right.

however i'm not totally clear what you mean by settling.
Guess she means settling for guy that is less attractive than like brad pitt
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Old 07-29-2013, 01:55 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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The demand for women is high. The supply is limited. Even attractive men can struggle to get a decent looking girl. Go to any club, bar, and you'll see what I mean. Any young lady who is even AVERAGE LOOKING will get PLENTY of attention from men.
What about average women who aren't into the club/bar scene? For the most part, they're invisible. If the demand for women is so high, why aren't men approaching women? It just isn't as simple as you make it out to be.
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Old 07-29-2013, 02:02 PM
 
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If the demand for women is so high, why aren't men approaching women?
Was there some recent moratorium on sexual encounters between 20-25 year olds that I was unaware of?
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Old 07-29-2013, 02:04 PM
 
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Guess she means settling for guy that is less attractive than like brad pitt
i mean it makes a lot of sense for lots of women to settle down between 20 and 25, if she ever plans to do it.

whether settling down is considered settling, i don't know. i don't think OP has a coherent point.
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Old 07-29-2013, 02:20 PM
 
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Your whole post is based on the premise that young women want LTR's in the first place.

Not necessarily so.

ETA: I just read the last paragraph (that's what I get for skimming) and OP has found her dream man and is in the throes of affianced love.

OP, enjoy while it lasts and try not to sound so smug OK. The divorce stats are against you so get back to us after 10 years and 2 kids and then give us advice on Settling.

I'm fairly sure you won't be quite so proud of the "catch" sitting on your sofa, as you are now.
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