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My best friend of 43 years (male, age 55) is in the midst of his second divorce. He has struggled with sex addiction issues his entire life. In the 2 ywears he has been separated he's been on a dating site called Christian Mingle. In that time he has had sex with 60 (yes, 60) different women to include a few that were married and living with their spouses. He is not a Christian and has been searching for a rich woman so he can retire immediately and be '**** of the walk' with her money. Now he's found a younger (age 47) recent widow with a few million dollars. He's playing the role of "Mr. Godly" strictly to win her over (she's very beautiful and really nice) and scam her for her money. Anyway, he's done it and they are engaged. As soon as his divorce becomes final they're getting married.
So the questions is- should I tell her about the fact she's being conned. She has no idea he's a sex addict, been sleeping around, drinks hard licquor, scamming unemployment for the last 3 years.... and scamming her.
My thinking is not to. Frankly, while I deplore the situation, she's a big girl and this is none of my business. Others are telling me she needs to know.
My best friend of 43 years (male, age 55) is in the midst of his second divorce. He has struggled with sex addiction issues his entire life. In the 2 ywears he has been separated he's been on a dating site called Christian Mingle. In that time he has had sex with 60 (yes, 60) different women to include a few that were married and living with their spouses. He is not a Christian and has been searching for a rich woman so he can retire immediately and be '**** of the walk' with her money. Now he's found a younger (age 47) recent widow with a few million dollars. He's playing the role of "Mr. Godly" strictly to win her over (she's very beautiful and really nice) and scam her for her money. Anyway, he's done it and they are engaged. As soon as his divorce becomes final they're getting married.
So the questions is- should I tell her about the fact she's being conned. She has no idea he's a sex addict, been sleeping around, drinks hard licquor, scamming unemployment for the last 3 years.... and scamming her.
My thinking is not to. Frankly, while I deplore the situation, she's a big girl and this is none of my business. Others are telling me she needs to know.
Any thoughts?
WHY would you even be friends with such a despicable character?
You should tell the woman (though she may well choose not to believe you because she's in love and in denial herself) - it's the right thing to do.
Examine your own conscience here and ask yourself again why you would have anything to do with such a person - no matter how long you have known each other.
have some character.......... tell if it were you would you want to know. yes ...... how do we consider ourself good if we never do any thing good.
send her a link to his profile. our just let her read this letter as an email ......
i lost my sister cause i told her something about her now husband - but i sleep good at night and at least she can't look at those kids and say " i didnot know"
i did my part, u do your ..........just imagine that was your mom ? and the guy problably has aids ? am sure he has something .....
Wow, I wish never have a best friend like that or a friendship of the type that you seem to be portraying. If my best freind does some BS that bothers me, i talk to him face to face about it. Thats what id prolly choose to do.
WHY would you even be friends with such a despicable character?
Because for 40 years he was a much better person than this. I mean, I have known about his sex addictions but he has been in counseling, I placed a restictive device on his computer so he couldn't view porn sites... but in the last few years he has totally lost his way. I've really dialed down our friendship.
My best friend of 43 years (male, age 55) is in the midst of his second divorce. He has struggled with sex addiction issues his entire life. In the 2 ywears he has been separated he's been on a dating site called Christian Mingle. In that time he has had sex with 60 (yes, 60) different women to include a few that were married and living with their spouses. He is not a Christian and has been searching for a rich woman so he can retire immediately and be '**** of the walk' with her money. Now he's found a younger (age 47) recent widow with a few million dollars. He's playing the role of "Mr. Godly" strictly to win her over (she's very beautiful and really nice) and scam her for her money. Anyway, he's done it and they are engaged. As soon as his divorce becomes final they're getting married.
So the questions is- should I tell her about the fact she's being conned. She has no idea he's a sex addict, been sleeping around, drinks hard licquor, scamming unemployment for the last 3 years.... and scamming her.
My thinking is not to. Frankly, while I deplore the situation, she's a big girl and this is none of my business. Others are telling me she needs to know.
Any thoughts?
Sounds like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. Does your "friendship" with him mean that much to you? I would say he's more like your brother than friend if you've been besties for 43 years. You need to evaluate what will become of the friendship if you blab.
Have you ever sat him down and spoken to him friend to friend? There's some issue deep down that is the root of his ill behavior. I don't think you need to tell her. I think you need to have a serious intervention with your friend and HE needs to come clean to this woman. If you go behind his back and tell him, he will feel betrayed. If you tell him to his face that if he doesn't come clean, you will tell her everything. That might shake him up a bit.
My best friend of 43 years (male, age 55) is in the midst of his second divorce. He has struggled with sex addiction issues his entire life. In the 2 ywears he has been separated he's been on a dating site called Christian Mingle. In that time he has had sex with 60 (yes, 60) different women to include a few that were married and living with their spouses. He is not a Christian and has been searching for a rich woman so he can retire immediately and be '**** of the walk' with her money. Now he's found a younger (age 47) recent widow with a few million dollars. He's playing the role of "Mr. Godly" strictly to win her over (she's very beautiful and really nice) and scam her for her money. Anyway, he's done it and they are engaged. As soon as his divorce becomes final they're getting married.
So the questions is- should I tell her about the fact she's being conned. She has no idea he's a sex addict, been sleeping around, drinks hard licquor, scamming unemployment for the last 3 years.... and scamming her.
My thinking is not to. Frankly, while I deplore the situation, she's a big girl and this is none of my business. Others are telling me she needs to know.
Any thoughts?
First off that scenario is more common than you think. There's quite a few people who fake being Christians on those types of websites & even in churches (they join the singles groups) ...who are just looking to score. When I first found out about how sleazy & disgusting those people are- I was absolutely repulsed.
So it is good for others to know. I have never been on dating sites & also have never joined any singles groups, but I have known many who learned the hard way.
As for the disgusting "friend" you have & that situation- you should send an anonymous note, or message her on Facebook or even an email from a bogus account. Tell her to keep it private, & investigate for herself. If she chooses to ignore your tip off, then its all on here.
Whatever happens, happens.
My best friend of 43 years (male, age 55) is in the midst of his second divorce. He has struggled with sex addiction issues his entire life. In the 2 ywears he has been separated he's been on a dating site called Christian Mingle. In that time he has had sex with 60 (yes, 60) different women to include a few that were married and living with their spouses. He is not a Christian and has been searching for a rich woman so he can retire immediately and be '**** of the walk' with her money. Now he's found a younger (age 47) recent widow with a few million dollars. He's playing the role of "Mr. Godly" strictly to win her over (she's very beautiful and really nice) and scam her for her money. Anyway, he's done it and they are engaged. As soon as his divorce becomes final they're getting married.
So the questions is- should I tell her about the fact she's being conned. She has no idea he's a sex addict, been sleeping around, drinks hard licquor, scamming unemployment for the last 3 years.... and scamming her.
My thinking is not to. Frankly, while I deplore the situation, she's a big girl and this is none of my business. Others are telling me she needs to know.
Any thoughts?
Please do. No use watching someone get hurt like that. She may be a big girl but you have informations that she doesn't this guy is obviously good at what he does and has pulled the veil over her eyes. This happened to someone I know and the man ended up manipulating and sleeping with the woman's 20 year old daughter throughout the marriage. You could do an anonymous letter.
Why not try to get your "friend" some help too while you're at it?? Intervention much?
*daughter was 17 when it all started and at the ugly end chose the manipulator over the mother saying she was "just jealous" these were regular people just hurting over a loss and trusting the WORNG guy.
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