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Part of the problem with guys that attract gold diggers is that they seek out trophy women and try to impress them with dates to expensive restaurants and trendy resorts and everything else their money can buy -- so they shouldn't be too surprised when they find out the trophy woman was actually only impressed with their money.
You can easily lose the trophy kind of women by not going after the expensively dressed woman and instead find a more self-made woman and don't pay for expensive meals, maybe a date to McDonalds instead and see if she sticks around.
I agree. And in those cases, the problem is self-imposed. No sympathy for a guy who uses money to impress women and later complains that all he can attract are the gold diggers. Regarding your second paragraph, I don't even think you have to avoid a well-dressed woman even. Many just like to present themselves nicely, but that does not make them a gold digger. Also, just having money or nice things does not make a gold digger either. I think it's a state of mind more than anything.
Ultimately it comes down to a question of what an individual values most.
Part of the problem with guys that attract gold diggers is that they seek out trophy women and try to impress them with dates to expensive restaurants and trendy resorts and everything else their money can buy -- so they shouldn't be too surprised when they find out the trophy woman was actually only impressed with their money.
You can easily lose the trophy kind of women by not going after the expensively dressed woman and instead find a more self-made woman and don't pay for expensive meals, maybe a date to McDonalds instead and see if she sticks around.
The men who can afford to do this don't care. Some men enjoy having an attractive woman sitting across from them at the dinner table, and that it costs a couple hundred bucks isn't a big deal. Here in NYC we are crawling with men who earn a lot, and they simply aren't worried about gold diggers. The only men who worry about them tend to be middle income wage guys, or slightly less. Men with real money know what they are doing - they aren't stupid, which is why they have money in the first place.
For a level-headed man, money is another tool when it comes to dating women. It is no different than being a really attractive woman - a level-headed one isn't worried that men are only interested in the way she looks and instead understands that for a woman looks are her currency in the dating world.
The OP should stop worrying about gold diggers and instead focus on his career.
I agree. And in those cases, the problem is self-imposed. No sympathy for a guy who uses money to impress women and later complains that all he can attract are the gold diggers. Regarding your second paragraph, I don't even think you have to avoid a well-dressed woman even. Many just like to present themselves nicely, but that does not make them a gold digger. Also, just having money or nice things does not make a gold digger either. I think it's a state of mind more than anything.
Ultimately it comes down to a question of what an individual values most.
Well of course -- a professional woman with her own good income may dress very nicely -- but watch out for the woman with not much of a job of her own that always dresses expensively -- if she's not buying those clothes out of her own hard-earned income, it's obvious that she's used to be taken care of and is very likely a gold-digger.
Money, it turns out, is pretty handy to have around. Show me two women who I perceive as otherwise equal I'll choose the one with more of it every time. Its not that I need it, I have more than I can spend. It's just common sense. It's why you are not going to find a women who doesn't factor money into the equation. Its always a factor even if nothing more than a check on the plus side that every person makes as they assess someone.
With that out of the way you need to be realistic. It takes a fair chunk of change to keep a gold digger up in the style they expect. You are almost certainly not in the very small group of men who possess that kind of money so that then leaves you at most being someone that a girl is attracted to because among other factors you have a decent income. This will sort itself out because the vast majority of women are not prostitutes and they will eventually either fall in love or not. If not your (not so much) money is not going to outweigh staying for them any more than it would for you.
In the highly unlikely event you really do need help your main objective is to avoid walking around with a bulls-eye on your back, keep your assets and income hidden. Your car is often the first giveaway as it goes where you go so avoid driving an expensive one. Monitor her behavior. When you are in love or even falling in love the only thing that really matters is being with that person. So it should be for her. Just like you she will be happy being together and doing things of almost any sort. If it requires expensive things beware.
It's just not easy trying to determine which women actually like you or just like your money.
Anyone have any ideas on how I can casually find out if a person is genuine or a gold digger without raising any red flags?
I'm sure they will weed you out, and you won't have to worry about it.
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