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So I was good friends with this girl in high school. I was always attracted to her, but she had a boyfriend.
Anyways, we kept in touch a bit when we went away to college. She had a steady bf then, too.
Saw her again for the first time in March after about 5 years of not seeing each other. It was pretty fun to catch up.
Saw her again in May and a couple weeks ago. These last two times, hanging out with her has been a CHORE. She wants to hang out a lot, but all she does is talk about her ex, or another guy she is interested in. I don't really get much of a chance to speak, and when I do I find we don't have the same interests anymore, and I feel generally uncomfortable interacting with her.
So, idk what to do. She wants to hang out a lot, and I feel bad deflecting cause she is actually really nice with good intentions.
Any way I can turn this into a FWB? I was thinking of asking her if we could progress things to FWB. Either she says yes (win), or she doesn't want to hang out with my again (win). Its unlikely she agrees, but its worth a try, I guess.
You want to f*ck her, but you can't stand talking to her and "feel generally uncomfortable interacting with her"? So...f*cking isn't interacting? I guess this kind of gibberish is what happens when guys think with the wrong head.
What would you do if she agreed, then fell for you because of the sex (it does tend to involve the emotions, even if that's not intended), and you're stuck with her as a gf? Or worse, what if you fall for her? Sex is known to have that effect on some guys.
You could do the mature thing, and try telling her your kind of burned out hearing about her ex and her new prospect, but you'd love to hang out if it could be like old times. If she gets mad, you still win.
So I was good friends with this girl in high school. I was always attracted to her, but she had a boyfriend.
Anyways, we kept in touch a bit when we went away to college. She had a steady bf then, too.
Saw her again for the first time in March after about 5 years of not seeing each other. It was pretty fun to catch up.
Saw her again in May and a couple weeks ago. These last two times, hanging out with her has been a CHORE. She wants to hang out a lot, but all she does is talk about her ex, or another guy she is interested in. I don't really get much of a chance to speak, and when I do I find we don't have the same interests anymore, and I feel generally uncomfortable interacting with her.
So, idk what to do. She wants to hang out a lot, and I feel bad deflecting cause she is actually really nice with good intentions.
Any way I can turn this into a FWB? I was thinking of asking her if we could progress things to FWB. Either she says yes (win), or she doesn't want to hang out with my again (win). Its unlikely she agrees, but its worth a try, I guess.
Find someone else to screw and don't waste this girls time.
So I was good friends with this girl in high school. I was always attracted to her, but she had a boyfriend.
Anyways, we kept in touch a bit when we went away to college. She had a steady bf then, too.
Saw her again for the first time in March after about 5 years of not seeing each other. It was pretty fun to catch up.
Saw her again in May and a couple weeks ago. These last two times, hanging out with her has been a CHORE. She wants to hang out a lot, but all she does is talk about her ex, or another guy she is interested in. I don't really get much of a chance to speak, and when I do I find we don't have the same interests anymore, and I feel generally uncomfortable interacting with her.
So, idk what to do. She wants to hang out a lot, and I feel bad deflecting cause she is actually really nice with good intentions.
Any way I can turn this into a FWB? I was thinking of asking her if we could progress things to FWB. Either she says yes (win), or she doesn't want to hang out with my again (win). Its unlikely she agrees, but its worth a try, I guess.
LOL!
So you don't want to "hang out with her" but you do want to "insert your dick in her".
Can you see the irony here?
Go ahead, she's desperate, vulnerable and lonely. Go and use her as a sperm spittoon when she's feeling so low. Why not. Great friend.
Fast forward 2 weeks and there'll be a thread saying "so I slept with this girl, now she won't stop dissing me behind my back".
The OP has a valid point, when he's just banging her she won't be droning on about her boyfriends as long as he's doing it right. On the flip side he gets services rendered for listening to the conversation narcississist.
The OP has a valid point, when he's just banging her she won't be droning on about her boyfriends as long as he's doing it right. On the flip side he gets services rendered for listening to the conversation narcississist.
But listening to the one-sided, obsessive convo is what he's trying to avoid. So as a plan, it doesn't meet all his goals, yet.
So I was good friends with this girl in high school. I was always attracted to her, but she had a boyfriend.
Anyways, we kept in touch a bit when we went away to college. She had a steady bf then, too.
Saw her again for the first time in March after about 5 years of not seeing each other. It was pretty fun to catch up.
Saw her again in May and a couple weeks ago. These last two times, hanging out with her has been a CHORE. She wants to hang out a lot, but all she does is talk about her ex, or another guy she is interested in. I don't really get much of a chance to speak, and when I do I find we don't have the same interests anymore, and I feel generally uncomfortable interacting with her.
So, idk what to do. She wants to hang out a lot, and I feel bad deflecting cause she is actually really nice with good intentions.
Any way I can turn this into a FWB? I was thinking of asking her if we could progress things to FWB. Either she says yes (win), or she doesn't want to hang out with my again (win). Its unlikely she agrees, but its worth a try, I guess.
If you want an FWB, never ask for one. It has to roll itself out by circumstance.
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The OP has a valid point, when he's just banging her she won't be droning on about her boyfriends as long as he's doing it right. On the flip side he gets services rendered for listening to the conversation narcississist.
