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Originally Posted by dub dub II
This girl I am or was with...she's pretty much moved on. She has another guy. She's all the way across the country on temporary leave. We were never formal...just fwb...but I've always told her that in time she could convert me. It's complicated further by something I won't go into.
Anyway, I've finally managed to get her to fess up to not being exclusive to me, and if I'm being honest, I haven't been exclusive to her, though there are some lines I didn't cross because of her. I feel cheated. This is something I suspected would happen when she left.
So why is this even a question, you ask?
Well, she'll be coming back in 6 months or so...and I was her old fling. Assuming she doesn't get serious with the guy and stay across the country...she's only ever coming back to me.
But, the relationship doesn't seem healthy...neither of us care enough about each other to act with each others interest's in mind in sexual contexts. The truth is, I like her...as a person. More than that, well, like I said, she'd have to convert me.
I just told her "I hope you two have a nice life together" and to "wish me luck out there".
A part of me thinks she's using the other guy as a way of signaling to me that she has "other potential". In any case, the headgames aren't healthy.
It pretty much signals the end of the relationship on my end.
I just hope I'm doing the right thing by moving on.
Am I?
I really hate being single. It doesn't agree with me.
I've been rejected twice in the last three months. I'm on a rather bad streak in my life.
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Lol! I will answer by telling a lil story..
After 3 years of not dating anyone, no sex, no contact period, this is something I DID FROM ME.. I went on an awkward date with an old hs pal whose ex wife was a good fried and an old co-worker, this did not work obviously.
MY SECOND DATE and what lasted for 4 months was my non formal ex my first and last FWB. He was also a former HS pal..our deal was sinple, we would have sex only with each other and see where it went. Well my never having a fwb BEFORE? Did not suit me.
Our relationship if it could even be seen as such was very casual, we texted 2 or 3 times a week and I would go and see him every other weekend..uggh. I finally started feeling cheap and if this was not benefiting me and I stated this to him after 3 months.
He stated that he could not offer me more ect..I left. Nicely at 7 am on a Sunday and he called a best friend of ours and stated he felt like a one night stand and like he had been used even though I had warned him.
He had sex with an ex, I found out through our friend and this was it.
One month later? I was on a date with the hs chemistry teacher (hot) and he showed up with a mutual friend. He saw us through the window and came in and busted up the party.. He was rude to my date and we left. Later on that night? He called me and stated it broke his heart to see me with another man. And I stated that he had his chance and he threw it away when he stated he was gun shy.
After this? He kept trying to get me to go out with him and I was dating someone new..He knew because we were to attend a mutual friends wedding and I told him he missed out and violated everything we had and did not take advantage of the good woman he had. He was delusional and stated he was going to give me till midnight on Sunday to make up my mind and that he wanted me after all. Needless to say I never contacted him and here we are a year later and I have been in a constructive loving relationship for almost 10 months?
We are still “friends” but that part of us is OVER.. never to happen again.
So umm you stating that you were willing to be converted into something more? Who is to say she did not want something this complicated? When there are so MANY FISH OUT THERE that will treat her like a queen and give her what she needs and wants?
You heard of that saying??? While you are taking your time there will be someone out there that wants and loves what you had and did not take care of…
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