Why do People always assume when someone struggles dating... (married, women, love)
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It's because they're going after people WAY above their leagues? That every time a man complains about his dating life or lack there of, it's ALWAYS assumed that it's because he goes after 10's. Or the women who struggle it's because she's waiting for the hot young rich lawyer?
Does this happen? Absolutely. I personally believe most people want partners in the top 1 or 2 percent of the dating world but it doesn't mean they're actively seeking that of their holding out strictly for that
I wouldn't assume that. Dating is just tough. There are so many factors that go into making a real and long lasting relationship with another person. The two people have to be attracted to each other, they have to like being around each other, have the same long term goals and be at the same point in their lives, and they both have to be willing to really stick it out and work through problems. I think a lot of people just give up even if they are a good match because it seems easier to quit than do the hard work a lasting relationship takes. It's a miracle anyone ever stays together and happy for their entire lives. I'd rather be alone and wait for that really good match than settle to avoid being alone and not have to date anymore.
If the person is willing to date whoever as long as their common interests and some sort of attraction, i dont think theres a problem. Especially if they arent meeting enough new people. However if its the guys and girls that are only willing to date the best of the best and yet themselves dont have much to offer besides looks or money, i think they only have themselves to blame
It's because they're going after people WAY above their leagues? That every time a man complains about his dating life or lack there of, it's ALWAYS assumed that it's because he goes after 10's. Or the women who struggle it's because she's waiting for the hot young rich lawyer?
Does this happen? Absolutely. I personally believe most people want partners in the top 1 or 2 percent of the dating world but it doesn't mean they're actively seeking that of their holding out strictly for that
In many cases, there is truth to it. People tend to overinflate their value, and underestimate how much traffic the "beautiful people" are getting on a regular basis. Why would the "beautiful people" pick the "nice average" people when they can find a "nice beautiful" person? These type of complainers CAN find suitors but don't like their options so they are going above their leagues.
For the rest, like clockwork, almost every poster who complains they can't find ANYONE to date eventually reveal (sometimes accidentally) they are either unappealing to the opposite sex (which doesn't always mean ugly), overweight, have mental/emotional issues, or live in a small town.
Last edited by Freedom123; 08-03-2012 at 02:49 PM..
I don't agree that anyone struggling with dating is assumed to be going after people somehow "above" them.
Yes and yes.
I frankly couldn't care less about the so-called 'beautiful people'... most of them are arrogant and not worthy of me in the first place. 'Average', 'everyday' women will do me fine... and that is what I aim for.
I assume that because it's true except when you're like the Elephant Man and everyone is above your league. Aim for as high as you can then set your sights lower with each failure until you find your actual league. Theres a lot of plain looking losery guys and girls who are married; I never see anyone good looking among the mutants in my town but there are still many couples who have found each other.
The other exception is having a really weird/messed up/annoying personality if ur a guy. An above average looking guy who acts really creepy and weird may have trouble getting girls. When I was younger I used to not get women because I acted strange & somewhat creepy but I kind of grew out of it and did a lot better.
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