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i have a feeling too..with one of her guy friends..idk why..just something. it just doesnt make sense. how is a person one second screaming at u for not being there and how they need u by them and then they say i dont feel the butterflys its over.??
and no we dont have to deal with this at any point of our life. We simply become what ive done all along: Aholes. f em and dump them. and i dont wonna hear the whole we're not all the ssame bs. fundamentally you all are. its hormonal factor. women arent stable
Oh my..
I know you are hurting. I think at this stage words won't be enough. Just know that I hope you get through this sooner than later. There will be better women for you. But you gotta get back to positive you for that to happen. Wishing you the best in such a confusing time.
IDK..maybe everybody is right.. i just need to chill alone for some time and let it ride out..i get so pissed just thinking of it. but its really build up..just havent talked to anyone about it
Oh. Rant about her. It'll be good for you. It's better than being sad.
Just keep some things to file under "lessons learned," and you'll come out of this with something, yanno?
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Oh. Rant about her. It'll be good for you. It's better than being sad.
Just keep some things to file under "lessons learned," and you'll come out of this with something, yanno?
thats my whole ANGER though you see..its not a lesson learned. its something ive accepted as TRUE about all women since i was 15. whether its generalizing or not..and its not intended to bash but its just how ive always felt. i ignored my intuition and judgement because alll my female friends said be different for once in my life and dont let a good girl pass you by. and it FAILED. now im pissed at myself for not trusting myself.
i dont even hold it against women. it was my fault. i knew better and i ignored it
thats my whole ANGER though you see..its not a lesson learned. its something ive accepted as TRUE about all women since i was 15. whether its generalizing or not..and its not intended to bash but its just how ive always felt. i ignored my intuition and judgement because alll my female friends said be different for once in my life and dont let a good girl pass you by. and it FAILED. now im pissed at myself for not trusting myself.
i dont even hold it against women. it was my fault. i knew better and i ignored it
If this is true - about this being your belief since you were a kid - you need to try to accept that it's past time for a more grownup perspective.
You are no longer a child and you can't afford to keep thinking like one.
There are plenty of lessons to be learned from what you are going through, but you have to be willing to be objective and honest with yourself okay?
You are not the only one who has ever been hurt. If you never take a chance on love you will be very lonely. Just be thankful you found out before it went any further.
i was an idiot and im trying to come in terms with that. just ripping me apart inside
From what I could see here, you took a chance and stepped outside your 'comfort zone', on the advice of friends, and attempted to do something different
It didn't work, and now you are both angry and reflective...the key thing here, man, is that you are just 29 years old...you have a good chunk of your life in front of you and thus, you can go one of two ways:
You can chalk it up to experience, take time to heal up, and then, IF you want to try and pursue a relationship again, then next time, you have THIS experience under your belt, and you may know better what and what not to do...OR
You also have the option NOT to date...this may be the experience that sends you in that direction...there are a lot of folk your age that don't date, or marry, and they are leading productive lives...they can travel, concentrate on careers, or learn to do stuff they've always wanted to do (rock climbing, skydiving, riding a motorcycle cross-country...the list is endless...what have YOU always wanted to do, but never thought you would have the time? Now may BE the time)
Either way, you don't necessarily have to go back to 'being an a-hole', as you put it, and throwing up that protective wall...take the time to do YOU, and go forth and do things that will make YOU happy...who knows, if you are inclined to date again down the road, your having taken the time to get yourself right may pay off---it will have gotten your confidnce sky-high, and I don't know any woman in the world who would not dig a confident man
It's totally your choice, and I for one wish you luck no matter which fork in the road you take
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