How can you tell if she actually likes you, but not as a friend (date, how to)
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There's this girl I met not to long ago(about 3 weeks ago). We went out 2 weeks ago to eat some dinner at a bar/restaurant. Had a great time and it appeared that she liked me. I don't know the whole signs of a girl liking you, but I assume its the stair, the smile, playing with hair when she talks to you, etc. At the end of the day, we hugged and she told me that she wanted me to call her later that day. I did and we talked for a while that same night. Well the next couple days we would text on and off, but when I asked her out to go watch a movie or meet at the same place she couldn't because of her work. That's understandable and I didn't think much of it. We text some more and about a week went by. We didn't really talk on the phone that much, but texted each other some. On a Friday afternoon, I texted her to see if she wanted to eat something and then go to see Batman, she told me that she was going to go with her co-workers to Happy Hour, but she never asked if I wanted to go. By this time, we had probably gone out about 2-3 times. Well, by this time I figured she wasn't interested anymore so I stopped texting her all together. A couple days went by without texting or speaking to each other and she decided to text me in the middle of the week. She says she was busy during the weekend hanging out at her parents house doing errands all day. Again, I didn't think much of it and went on with my business. She would text me every so often, but we never really talked on the phone. I tried calling her but she didn't pick up. She told me from the beginning that her phone was acting up and it was hard to get reception at her apt. I guess I believe her......what choice do I have. So last friday night, she texted me around 11:45pm and asked me what I was doing. I told her that I had just come back from my friends house. I jokingly said that we havent' seen each other in a while and should go out that same night(honestly thinking that she was going to say no). She said she "agreed" and asked me to meet her at the bar we had hung out about 2 weeks ago. Mind you, this was about 12:30am. Well, I met her at the bar and we had a couple drinks, nothing real big. We met around 1:15am and the bar was closing at 2am. She looked really nice and smelled good We went in her car and looked for a place to eat. The streets were packed with people and we found an all you can eat chinese bar. She ordered her dinner to go and we drove back to my car and she parked her car next to mine. I didn't know what to do but we talked a little bit in her car. I didn't want to make any moves on her because I was totally confused it she liked me or not. I thought to myself that she liked me as a friend only, but wasn't really sure. We talked for about 5 mins and I got outta her car and stepped into mine. She drove home and texted me saying she arrived home safely and I text her 20 min later saying I got home safely. I told her that I had a good time and she texted me back saying she also did. I asked her if she wanted to go out tomorrow to a latin club to dance, she made a couple jokes about hoping I could dance to latin music and I told her I could. Long story short, the next day she went to see the Alabama vs Michigan game with her friends and we never ended up going out that night. Go figure? So I am utterly confused as to what she thinks about me. I, honestly, think she only likes me as a friend, but I don't know. She texts me every so often but nothing else.
I'm confused. Can anyone clear this up for me? What does she think about me?
what do you mean? what should I do on my part to see if she likes me or not without actually embarrassing myself?
It seems like you want something very low risk and I can't think of anything. I'm not good with that. I'm sure someone else here will have some ideas. Give it time. In the meantime keep in contact with her.
I'm kinda of straight to the punch, so if you are kinda shy on the phone use the easy way out of text everyone seems to use today and just text her "I would like to ask you out on a date because_________ how does ___day work out for you" kinda thing. Personally, I would prefer you to try calling! If she throws you another curve, call her on it and just ask her if she is interested in seeing you for a "date"....what do you have to lose but wasted time on someone that isn't interested!
I'm kinda of straight to the punch, so if you are kinda shy on the phone use the easy way out of text everyone seems to use today and just text her "I would like to ask you out on a date because_________ how does ___day work out for you" kinda thing. Personally, I would prefer you to try calling! If she throws you another curve, call her on it and just ask her if she is interested in seeing you for a "date"....what do you have to lose but wasted time on someone that isn't interested!
- thanks grape-juliet, I'll keep that in mind.
Two pieces of advice -
If you want people to read and answer your posts, use paragraphs
second, learn how to read body language. It's not that hard.
-if you have nothing helpful to say then don't read my post, period. It aint that hard. I didn't force you to read my post so if you don't like the way it's written, well, sucks to be you. I don't hear other people complaining about it.
It seems like you want something very low risk and I can't think of anything. I'm not good with that. I'm sure someone else here will have some ideas. Give it time. In the meantime keep in contact with her.
- thanks for the advice srjth, I'll keep in touch with her. It was nice at the beginning because we would talk on the phone a lot. She would call me when she got back home from work and we would talk for 2 hours. Now it seems a little different. She seems a little distant. Not calling me like she used to at the beginning. If I don't text her for a couple days, she would text me and ask me what I'm doing. But when I would respond, she would sometimes respond in a couple hours or even the next day. Very confusing.
Learn how to read body language. It's not that hard
Exactly. My mother always would say, "if someone is interested in you, you will KNOW it." This is regardless of gender. If you have to ask yourself whether they're into you or not, they are almost always NOT interested. Someone who wants you lets you know.
I actually read that giant wall of text and I can say this: if you're analyzing things in that much detail, she's not interested.
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We went in her car and looked for a place to eat. The streets were packed with people and we found an all you can eat chinese bar. She ordered her dinner to go and we drove back to my car and she parked her car next to mine. I didn't know what to do but we talked a little bit in her car. I didn't want to make any moves on her because I was totally confused it she liked me or not. I thought to myself that she liked me as a friend only, but wasn't really sure. We talked for about 5 mins and I got outta her car and stepped into mine. She drove home and texted me saying she arrived home safely and I text her 20 min later saying I got home safely. I told her that I had a good time and she texted me back saying she also did. I asked her if she wanted to go out tomorrow to a latin club to dance, she made a couple jokes about hoping I could dance to latin music and I told her I could. Long story short, the next day she went to see the Alabama vs Michigan game with her friends and we never ended up going out that night. Go figure? So I am utterly confused as to what she thinks about me. I, honestly, think she only likes me as a friend, but I don't know. She texts me every so often but nothing else.
