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Don't go strait to "so, where do you live and work?". I'm guessing many woman interpret this as "I'm a stalker, and a lazy one at that.".
Eventually, if w are talking about meeting, I'll ask what part of town they live in, but I'll give up my info, partly on good faith, but more a an example of the vagueness I am hoping for. ("i live in #### community near exit 287")
I think/hope most women appreciate the effort to respect their privacy.
Talk about something in their profile. Make a genuine effort to get to know them better, and see what you may have in common.
When I was using online dating, I made sure I had a few unusual, quirky things in my profile. When I got a message from someone, I read their profile, then decided how I would respond. If I wasn't interested, I would always respond and say so, and try to say why. Sometimes it's easy, like the guy who lived in another country. Sometimes it was based on bad spelling/grammar, once because right in the profile he stated that he had a harem of 4 girls, and was planning to build it to an even dozen!
Find something about them, in their profile, to ask about. "Your profile said you collect medieval weapons. Tell me about your collection" If their profile is a complete dud, I'm not sure why you would want to respond, but you could always go with "What was it about my profile that led you to contact me?" If the answer was 'you're female and withing 5/10/50 miles of me', I don't think I would bother continuing that conversation.
You could develop the 'lists of five' which I was doing for a while. "What are your five favorite _________?" I would list my five favorite stand up comics, movies, colors, foods, etc... just oddball things, and get his back. You can do a lot of weeding out that way. If his favorite comics run to people you hate, you don't share a sense of humor. If you're a classical music fan and his music runs to gangsta rap, it doesn't bode well.
Don't go strait to "so, where do you live and work?". I'm guessing many woman interpret this as "I'm a stalker, and a lazy one at that.".
Eventually, if w are talking about meeting, I'll ask what part of town they live in, but I'll give up my info, partly on good faith, but more a an example of the vagueness I am hoping for. ("i live in #### community near exit 287")
I think/hope most women appreciate the effort to respect their privacy.
Talk about something in their profile. Make a genuine effort to get to know them better, and see what you may have in common.
See I'm from the TELEPHONE DATING world and it's always been in me to ask "what part of the city are you from?
But I have had females ask me........"what company do you work for? HUH????
When I was using online dating, I made sure I had a few unusual, quirky things in my profile. When I got a message from someone, I read their profile, then decided how I would respond. If I wasn't interested, I would always respond and say so, and try to say why. Sometimes it's easy, like the guy who lived in another country. Sometimes it was based on bad spelling/grammar, once because right in the profile he stated that he had a harem of 4 girls, and was planning to build it to an even dozen!
Find something about them, in their profile, to ask about. "Your profile said you collect medieval weapons. Tell me about your collection" If their profile is a complete dud, I'm not sure why you would want to respond, but you could always go with "What was it about my profile that led you to contact me?" If the answer was 'you're female and withing 5/10/50 miles of me', I don't think I would bother continuing that conversation.
You could develop the 'lists of five' which I was doing for a while. "What are your five favorite _________?" I would list my five favorite stand up comics, movies, colors, foods, etc... just oddball things, and get his back. You can do a lot of weeding out that way. If his favorite comics run to people you hate, you don't share a sense of humor. If you're a classical music fan and his music runs to gangsta rap, it doesn't bode well.
Look for something in their profile that indicates a hobby or interest, or maybe one of their photos that shows an activity or trip. Ask about it. This online dating stuff is a far cry from the...oh, golly...old days. Back then we just agreed to the date and found out all this stuff over dinner. Now you have to kind of do the reverse.
Ask about interests before career or where she lives.
Sometimes they don't have them listed
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