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i asked why, be specific, why is desperation to be in a relationship an unattractive quality?
That's exactly why though. Having a relationship is not a necessity. Furthermore, people who are desperate can give off this vibe of being to co-dependent and clingy. Most people want to be in relationships but still would like their space sometimes and don't want to feel like their partner can't function when they are not around.
i asked why, be specific, why is desperation to be in a relationship an unattractive quality?
Girls like guys that can handle themselves. They want a guy that is strong and can lead them around. Being aloof is far better than being desperate. Trust me, I've done them both
That's exactly why though. Having a relationship is not a necessity. Furthermore, people who are desperate can give off this vibe of being to co-dependent and clingy. Most people want to be in relationships but still would like their space sometimes and don't want to feel like their partner can't function when they are not around.
if it's not a necessity then why do people date, have relationships, have sex in the first place if they are not a neccessity?
Question: Why is neediness bad?
Answer: Who cares? Girls hate it. So don't do it.
There.
it makes me mad because guys have to have a life, they have to have priorities in life, have things going for them in life, but girls don't have to have any of those qualities, it's just not as important for girls to have those qualities, i just don't want to get my first girlfriend at a late age, and WrongPlanet.Net is really pissing off in trying to register there!
it makes me mad because guys have to have a life, they have to have priorities in life, have things going for them in life, but girls don't have to have any of those qualities, it's just not as important for girls to have those qualities, i just don't want to get my first girlfriend at a late age, and WrongPlanet.Net is really pissing off in trying to register there!
Does anyone else ever get told that they don't need to worry about having a relationship and all that because they're "young" and "have time"? Does it ever really bug you or am I the only one?
I get that a lot of people think that everything happens as it should, when it should, and I usually believe the same thing. But I'm starting to wonder if I'm just using it as an excuse to not date. Anyone coming to the same realization or am I just wasting the unlimited bandwidth of the Internet?
I agree with the first half, but I'm not quite sure I understand the second bit. Keep in mind that time will run out one day. I personally didn't want any children until nature took its course and they were forced on me. After the fact, I wondered what took me so long...
On a rather glum note. At age 32, I found myself divorced, rather poor from child support and the fact that I lost my high paying factory job due to a plant closing, and I was noticeably balding. Hence, no redeeming qualities for the standard of women that I'd gotten used to at that point in life. Not willing to compromise because I don't want to be with a woman I'm not really into mentally and physically just for the sake of being with somebody, I stayed single, but stressed about it. As time marched on, people would tell me that it will happen, you're still young enough. Well, I'm 47 now, and it never happened. I have not had a girlfriend in 15 years. I've dated here and there, but within 10 minutes, I knew she wasn't for me due to our drastic differences in likes/dislikes and hobbies. I knew it was going to be like this when I was 32, and it was a rather depressing feeling that I stressed about for quite a long time.
On a positive tone, I'm not sure if I've just accepted it after all these years or of Mother Nature just shut off my biological clock, but I don't even want a woman now. Even when I see some young tight attractive thing, I don't see her as a sexual desire. She's just another person. In fact, I usually don't even notice them or I don't pay any more attention than I would if she was unattractive or a man. This recent change/attitude has helped me immensely. During the past 15 years, I've gotten the idea that some people in society looked at me as a defective person because I couldn't find a mate. There were times when it bothered me, but for the most part, I could reassure myself that it was better to be single and looking than in a relationship with somebody I couldn't stand and looking...
I hope this helped. If not, thanks for reading.
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