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I vote that men do. Men are the ones who go after women, and women are the ones who get the choice of who gets shot-down or who gets an opportunity. I don't think this is every case, but in most situations I find this to be true. What do you think?
I think it's fairly equal. It depends on the people, really... as a woman I've been rejected more times than I can count, but my sister gets chased by nearly every man she comes in contact with and turns most of them down.
I've rejected just as many girls as have rejected me. The difference is context. At a party/bar/club, I'll get rejected with cold approaches about 50% of the time. But within a group of friends, or at work, or other social connections I'll be rejecting a good portion of the girls (more than 50%; I'm picky). But I proposition more than I get propositioned, so even with the percentage differences, it evens out.
Please. Enough of the equitable, "feel good" message. The OP is absolutely correct. Most men approach, and are thus more apt to be turned down. Women who do the approaching, especially at an earlier age, know they have to do so. In a multi-ethnic area, I've usually seen this manifest itself as a woman who "checks the minority box" chasing a white guy. Most white guys are not interested, and usually try to let them down as lightly as possible.
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Please. Enough of the equitable, "feel good" message. The OP is absolutely correct. Most men approach, and are thus more apt to be turned down. Women who do the approaching, especially at an earlier age, know they have to do so. In a multi-ethnic area, I've usually seen this manifest itself as a woman who "checks the minority box" chasing a white guy. Most white guys are not interested, and usually try to let them down as lightly as possible.
It's kind of pathetic. I have a friend who has Asian women chasing him left right and centre. White girls, for the most part, are not interested in him. I actually think he's not too bad looking, just a bit socially awkward, but I sometimes wonder if that's why he's so into them. He has a new 'girlfriend' every couple of months, who is more like a FWB, although he's had a couple of serious ones. To be fair he's also really interested in Japanese culture so it's not just for the sex, but I find it annoying how these Asian, Black, Hispanic women fawn over white guys like they're some sort of super male.
I'd say it's about 50/50. Not always, but I have notice that the girls who approach me are a little less attractive than that girls that I ask out(and say yes to me). So I tend to turn down more girls than girls turn me down.
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