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Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by FromTN2A2
No hiding, but more than happy to dismiss you from my life when you choose to ignorantly judge someone I love--or anyone for that fact-- based on the color of their skin
^This.
If my father was still alive, I'd probably have to take that approach with him. He hated it when my black mother ended up relationships with white men. I doubt he'd accepted it if I brought a white lady to meet him.
Mostly everyone who is "white" is pretty "generic" white mix unless their parents are immigrants in the past 2 generations or so or Jewish. Otherwise no one knows.
I know what bugs me though when people ask me what country my black roots are from. I want to respond with something evil, but I usually say, we are still trying to trace things past the civil war.
First, if its secret, its not a relationship. Period on that. Secondly, I've dated, & married a Hispanic, and almost married an African American woman, we dated for a year, and things happened, not related to race at all.
If you have a relationship, then that person is more important than anyone else in your life, so if you have to keep it a secret from anyone else, then you are not in a relationship, you hook up, have a booty call, and walk on seperate sides of the street when you walk thru town.
IF YOU HAVE TO HIDE IT FROM ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR LIFE, YOU ARE CHOOSING THAT PERSON OVER THE PERSON YOU ALLEGEDLY SAY YOU LOVE!!
No, but I think my parents would disapprove if I dated a black woman. A few years ago I was very interested in a lovely young woman from my school and my mother got a look on her face that I didn't care for one bit when I said her name was Tamika.
The sad thing is my mother didn't use to be like this, she's gotten very racist since divorcing my father and being with her fiancee. We got into an argument once over her use of a disgusting term for blacks that I had never heard before her fiancee, and later her, started using it. I told them both I thought the word was crude and disgusting and that if they ever used it around me again it would be the last time I ever came into their home again. They haven't used it since.
Relationships with a woman of another race were never a secret for me. I don't care what other peoples hangups are about that, Or what they would have to say about it. Esp being of mixed race myself.
No, but I think my parents would disapprove if I dated a black woman. A few years ago I was very interested in a lovely young woman from my school and my mother got a look on her face that I didn't care for one bit when I said her name was Tamika.
The sad thing is my mother didn't use to be like this, she's gotten very racist since divorcing my father and being with her fiancee. We got into an argument once over her use of a disgusting term for blacks that I had never heard before her fiancee, and later her, started using it. I told them both I thought the word was crude and disgusting and that if they ever used it around me again it would be the last time I ever came into their home again. They haven't used it since.
Why did you care what your mother thought? why didn't you keep talking to her?
this is the reason why black women don't date outside their race for this very reason. alot of white men are discouraged by their mothers from dating black women
Why did you care what your mother thought? why didn't you keep talking to her?
this is the reason why black women don't date outside their race for this very reason. alot of white men are discouraged by their mothers from dating black women
Slow down, you assume too much.
I didn't give a toss what mom thought. Tamika was the one that wasn't interested in dating, and not because of racial differences, she didn't feel she was in a place in her life to start a relationship. I respected her choice.
And for your information, she and I still talk all the time. She lives in VA still and I'm in AK. We mutually agreed to remain friends.
Why did you care what your mother thought? why didn't you keep talking to her?
this is the reason why black women don't date outside their race for this very reason. alot of white men are discouraged by their mothers from dating black women
While I wouldn't approve of an adult allowing family/friends to influence their dating decisions, I could certainly understand why someone wouldn't want to risk getting disowned if they could be just as happy with someone from their own race. My parents don't care at all that I date interracially, so I don't have to worry about upsetting them but not everyone can say the same.
The typical mix in the US: Irish/Scott/German/English in unknown proportions.
Usually if people know they are Swedish/Norwegian/Polish/Finnish/Italian/Russian it denotes more recent immigration. If someone has been here for a while, then they are usually some combo of English/something else.
The English ancestry tends to be pretty far back, so there are no recent discernible connection to Europe or any fairly close relatives. Basically "American"
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