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Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year. She started seeing this doctor because she said she has trust issues. The doctor told her that she should break up with me and be without me to gain trust. She did and told me she wanted to get back with me after she fixed herself. I asked her if she was going to hook up with anyone she said i plan on getting really drunk friday and im not sure whats going to happen. I snapped and said she needed to leave.
A couple days go by she is telling me she misses me she loves me etc. Fast forward to friday (yesterday) she texts me throughout the night asking me what i'm doing apparently she went on my facebook and saw in a conversation that i was going out with a few friends. She calls me later that night tells me nothing happened and she misses me and loves me.
She calls me this morning randomly saying she wants to get back with me that she misses me and loves me so much i'm thinking everythings great. When she gets to my house she goes "i need to tell you something" apparently she got really drunk last night and hooked up with some guy at the party. She says that it was only because she was drunk and it showed her how much she REALLY loves me and wants to be with me. I had her call the kid tell him that what happened last night was only a mistake (yeah she got his number) and i told her that she is not going out to any partys any more with her **** friends (which they are) without me.
I'm really not sure what to do here. One side of me is telling me to forgive her she came clean and she really seems sorry the other said feels betrayed and crushed and just says move on.
Any advice here?
PS. her friends are telling her that its okay because she was single but in my eyes she really wasn't and its not okay because she still talking to me telling me she loves me and misses me basically stringing me along.
I had her call the kid tell him that what happened last night was only a mistake (yeah she got his number) and i told her that she is not going out to any partys any more with her **** friends (which they are) without me.
Problem solved. She told him that what happened was a mistake and you have prohibited her from going out to any partys anymore without you.
She is all yours now. You have a monopoly on her ability to achieve orgasms with another person. Plain and simple.
All she was waiting for, was for you to put your foot down, set some ground rules and show her who the boss was.
This was a learning experience for both of you, and you actually have the option to cheat on her at least one time, under the same circumstances as long as you admit to her that you did it and then go through the same charade the next day and call the girl you got drunk with and tell her it was a mistake and then agree to only go to partys together in the future.
You have just entered the first phase of having a trusting and monogamous relationship with her. You da' man.
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year. She started seeing this doctor because she said she has trust issues. The doctor told her that she should break up with me and be without me to gain trust. She did and told me she wanted to get back with me after she fixed herself. I asked her if she was going to hook up with anyone she said i plan on getting really drunk friday and im not sure whats going to happen. I snapped and said she needed to leave.
A couple days go by she is telling me she misses me she loves me etc. Fast forward to friday (yesterday) she texts me throughout the night asking me what i'm doing apparently she went on my facebook and saw in a conversation that i was going out with a few friends. She calls me later that night tells me nothing happened and she misses me and loves me.
She calls me this morning randomly saying she wants to get back with me that she misses me and loves me so much i'm thinking everythings great. When she gets to my house she goes "i need to tell you something" apparently she got really drunk last night and hooked up with some guy at the party. She says that it was only because she was drunk and it showed her how much she REALLY loves me and wants to be with me. I had her call the kid tell him that what happened last night was only a mistake (yeah she got his number) and i told her that she is not going out to any partys any more with her **** friends (which they are) without me.
I'm really not sure what to do here. One side of me is telling me to forgive her she came clean and she really seems sorry the other said feels betrayed and crushed and just says move on.
Any advice here?
PS. her friends are telling her that its okay because she was single but in my eyes she really wasn't and its not okay because she still talking to me telling me she loves me and misses me basically stringing me along.
UNLESS YOU ARE MARRIED TO THIS GIRL SHE IS SINGLE and YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER WHAT SHE DOES WITH HER LIFE, WHO SHE GOES TO PARTIES WITH AND WHO HER FRIENDS ARE. ALSO, YOU STATED YOU WERE BROKE UP SO SHE IS EVEN MORE SINGLE THAN SHE WAS BEFORE.
She should run as fast as she can from you and your control issues.
UNLESS YOU ARE MARRIED TO THIS GIRL SHE IS SINGLE and YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER WHAT SHE DOES WITH HER LIFE, WHO SHE GOES TO PARTIES WITH AND WHO HER FRIENDS ARE. ALSO, YOU STATED YOU WERE BROKE UP SO SHE IS EVEN MORE SINGLE THAN SHE WAS BEFORE.
She should run as fast as she can from you and your control issues.
I didn't really post the back story of this. She said she needed time and I told her I supported any decision she makes and I'll give her time I actually didn't even contact her she kept messaging me. I told her I just didn't approve of her hooking up with guys.
Can't really give you advice, because for all we know, she's the one you're meant to be with and you just have to figure out how to make it happen (and workable).
you cant control anyone, so forcing her to not go out partying with her friends will backfire.. you are basically saying you dont trust her (whether you should or not is another matter), but without trust you have nothing.
UNLESS YOU ARE MARRIED TO THIS GIRL SHE IS SINGLE and YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER WHAT SHE DOES WITH HER LIFE, WHO SHE GOES TO PARTIES WITH AND WHO HER FRIENDS ARE. ALSO, YOU STATED YOU WERE BROKE UP SO SHE IS EVEN MORE SINGLE THAN SHE WAS BEFORE.
She should run as fast as she can from you and your control issues.
This post is funny. Totally misses the boat, but still funny.
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