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Everyone dies alone. It doesn't matter if their death bed is surrounded by 20 people, they die alone and whatever happens to them after death, happens to them and no one in that room. Worrying about tomorrow is always a recipe for unhappiness in any case. People who brood about death (unless death is imminent), are almost univerally miserable people who others avoid like the plague.
This is true....but death is perhaps my favorite topic. It's interesting to me...to think all this doesn't even matter...that we're all going to die anyway. And people do avoid you...as if you yourself are the harbinger of death. I'm actually not that angry about it anymore.
You should come to my funeral...if you're still around. Free drinks, free food, and I'm looking to book a band...
I just get the sense that it'll never happen for me.
Why?
I'm an isolationist...I don't talk to a lot of people...let alone girls that I find attractive. I can go days without talking to anyone...and I like living in places where there's no one around for miles...
I'm a perfectionist...if she isn't close to perfect, or working towards that end, I lose interest.
I can never make up my mind. Even if there were two girls who were interested in me and I liked them both, I wouldn't be a able to decide. It's like I have this conception that she must be the only one for me..meant for me..which just isn't the way the world works.
My standards are too high...very few people I've ever met meet them. So far, just one...and I chickened out.
I chicken out...I guess, I'm not ready.
I'm poor. Explains itself.
I'm lazy. Don't like working...favorite thing to do is sit and do nothing..
I'm unreasonable...I like things the way I like them..
I need to be cajoled into doing anything...seriously, I won't even do the dishes unless someone is yelling at me.
I always think I'm right...I don't understand people who don't.
I complain a lot.
I'm rude...not to people's faces..but behind their backs...
I'm black....and I don't get along with black women.
I'm white...which white people don't agree with. Their loss..
I'm overly sensitive...I tend to get angry at things easily.
I get frustrated at myself and go into week long moods...snapping at everyone.
......
In short, I don't like many people (and many girls) and I'm not too likeable myself (even I can barely tolerate me...).
So, it's like, I'll die alone I guess...it's sad but you are who you are...what can you do?
Can't change who you are...
You're a poor, lazy, two faced jerk!! (summarizing your list) I agree you're going to die alone.
I just get the sense that it'll never happen for me.
Why?
I'm an isolationist...I don't talk to a lot of people...let alone girls that I find attractive. I can go days without talking to anyone...and I like living in places where there's no one around for miles...
I'm a perfectionist...if she isn't close to perfect, or working towards that end, I lose interest.
I can never make up my mind. Even if there were two girls who were interested in me and I liked them both, I wouldn't be a able to decide. It's like I have this conception that she must be the only one for me..meant for me..which just isn't the way the world works.
My standards are too high...very few people I've ever met meet them. So far, just one...and I chickened out.
I chicken out...I guess, I'm not ready.
I'm poor. Explains itself.
I'm lazy. Don't like working...favorite thing to do is sit and do nothing..
I'm unreasonable...I like things the way I like them..
I need to be cajoled into doing anything...seriously, I won't even do the dishes unless someone is yelling at me.
I always think I'm right...I don't understand people who don't.
I complain a lot.
I'm rude...not to people's faces..but behind their backs...
I'm black....and I don't get along with black women.
I'm white...which white people don't agree with. Their loss..
I'm overly sensitive...I tend to get angry at things easily.
I get frustrated at myself and go into week long moods...snapping at everyone.
......
In short, I don't like many people (and many girls) and I'm not too likeable myself (even I can barely tolerate me...).
So, it's like, I'll die alone I guess...it's sad but you are who you are...what can you do?
Can't change who you are...
and then you Die.
Sounds like you aren't doing anything with your life anyway.
Almost all of those things that are actual drawbacks and character flaws are fixable. If you just want to sit around and wallow in your own misery, well, more power to you. But don't expect sympathy on here.
If you do want to make changes (rather than sitting their claiming changes can't be made), start with getting some sort of therapy. Many places will have a sliding scale or if you have insurance it will reduce the cost.
If dying alone is that much of a horror to you, you could make changes. Honestly, the way you describe yourself, I'd run screaming. Any sane person would.
So either stop complaining about how you're CHOOSING to be the miserable person that you are describing, or take some action to improve yourself. If you post about the latter, you'll probably get a lot of support and encouragement here. But the current pity party is just attention seeking.
I'm not sure why you think I'm miserable. Saddened, maybe...but more like 'It sucks that I hit that squirrel" sad...not "I'm going to go cry myself to sleep" sad...
It's not so much dying alone that's the problem...rather...it's living alone for 50+ years.
That's going to suck. No company, no kids, no sex, limited financial opportunities etc etc
No company? Go find a chick that's just as lonely and miserable as you are. Plenty are out here.
No kids? Kids just cost money and take up a ton of your time for decades so you're not really missing out. However, if you're really that hard up for kids, go adopt one, find a surrogate, or find a chick that's just as lonely/miserable as you are and who wants to have kids. Plenty are out here.
No sex? Well, that's why escorts, massage parlors, and streetwalkers exist; in America and abroad. If you don't wish to go that route, as I said before, find a chick that's just as lonely and miserable as you are. Plenty are out here.
Limited financial opportunities? Either you know how to make money or you don't. I'm not sure what that has to do with someone else and it has nothing to do with your relationship status. If you want more financial opportunities, create them yourself.
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I just get the sense that it'll never happen for me.
Why?
I'm an isolationist...I don't talk to a lot of people...let alone girls that I find attractive. I can go days without talking to anyone...and I like living in places where there's no one around for miles...
I'm a perfectionist...if she isn't close to perfect, or working towards that end, I lose interest.
I can never make up my mind. Even if there were two girls who were interested in me and I liked them both, I wouldn't be a able to decide. It's like I have this conception that she must be the only one for me..meant for me..which just isn't the way the world works.
My standards are too high...very few people I've ever met meet them. So far, just one...and I chickened out.
I chicken out...I guess, I'm not ready.
I'm poor. Explains itself.
I'm lazy. Don't like working...favorite thing to do is sit and do nothing..
I'm unreasonable...I like things the way I like them..
I need to be cajoled into doing anything...seriously, I won't even do the dishes unless someone is yelling at me.
I always think I'm right...I don't understand people who don't.
I complain a lot.
I'm rude...not to people's faces..but behind their backs...
I'm black....and I don't get along with black women.
I'm white...which white people don't agree with. Their loss..
I'm overly sensitive...I tend to get angry at things easily.
I get frustrated at myself and go into week long moods...snapping at everyone.
......
In short, I don't like many people (and many girls) and I'm not too likeable myself (even I can barely tolerate me...).
So, it's like, I'll die alone I guess...it's sad but you are who you are...what can you do?
Can't change who you are...
So are you black or are you white?
"what can you do?" What a foolish question. You can change. If you don't like who you are (and you appear not to) then do something about it. You are the only one who can.
Almost all of those things that are actual drawbacks and character flaws are fixable. If you just want to sit around and wallow in your own misery, well, more power to you. But don't expect sympathy on here.
If you do want to make changes (rather than sitting their claiming changes can't be made), start with getting some sort of therapy. Many places will have a sliding scale or if you have insurance it will reduce the cost.
If dying alone is that much of a horror to you, you could make changes. Honestly, the way you describe yourself, I'd run screaming. Any sane person would.
So either stop complaining about how you're CHOOSING to be the miserable person that you are describing, or take some action to improve yourself. If you post about the latter, you'll probably get a lot of support and encouragement here. But the current pity party is just attention seeking.
I'm not sure why you think I'm miserable. Saddened, maybe...but more like 'It sucks that I hit that squirrel" sad...not "I'm going to go cry myself to sleep" sad...
Definitions of miserable from dictionary.com:
1. wretchedly unhappy, uneasy, or uncomfortable: miserable victims of war.
2. wretchedly poor; needy.
3. of wretched character or quality; contemptible: a miserable villain.
4. attended with or causing misery: a miserable existence.
So you're so God-like that you determine who warrants sympathy?
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