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I just recently signed up for pof.com and I am shocked because I have received a lot of messages. But I never get hit on out in public. I don't understand it whatsoever. I hangout at a bar every Sunday and no one really approaches me there or when I'm hanging out with my friends. Is this normal?
Men tend more to approach women who are alone than women who are with a pack of friends. Sundays aren't the most active days at bars, either, are they? Fridays and Saturdays might be a better bet. POF is a free venue, and gets all kinds of guys. The fee-based sites would have a higher percentage of members who are employed and well-educated.
I go to a sports bar, so it's pretty packed for football, but I could get overshadowed by all of the pretty girls there I suppose. I would only date someone that's well educated and is employed like myself, but this city has a rather large young professional population, so it's pretty easy to find someone. I've never tried the online dating thing with guys before so I kinda want to see how it works
So what's the problem? Isn't that what you signed up for?
Instead of worrying about what wasn't working, why not concentrate in what is working and start answering you messages? Apparently they like what they see in your profile.
I'm just confused as to why I don't get approached in real life....
I had a conversation with a friend a few months back and she was like what do I do when I am approached and I said I haven't been really. Maybe people do hit on me, but I dont realize it.
I go to a sports bar, so it's pretty packed for football, but I could get overshadowed by all of the pretty girls there I suppose. I would only date someone that's well educated and is employed like myself, but this city has a rather large young professional population, so it's pretty easy to find someone. I've never tried the online dating thing with guys before so I kinda want to see how it works
i don't know what you look like, but online dating is even more heavily skewed in favor of women than bars/nightclubs. don't forget that at offline venues, guys still have to gather up their courage to approach a girl and face the possibility of being shot down or laughed at. this tends to automatically eliminate a large percentage of men from the running. online, however, it's much easier since every guy can now take his own sweet time to draft a nice email, and not receiving a response via email doesn't sting nearly as much since most are playing the numbers game and will likely not even remember having sent you a message!
the disadvantage to you as a woman is that guys that might seem funny/charming/outgoing in their messages might be quite shy and poor conversationalists in real life. not saying this always happens but given the nature of electronic communication it's hard to tell for sure.
I'm just confused as to why I don't get approached in real life....
I had a conversation with a friend a few months back and she was like what do I do when I am approached and I said I haven't been really. Maybe people do hit on me, but I dont realize it.
It takes effort and sometimes sincerity to hit on women in real life. Online dating, it's all a cheap shot. Couple of clicks, that's all it takes. Cheapt shots!
Create a profile as an ugly fat chick, you WILL get hits/emails too.
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Isn't that what you signed up for