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The marriage of my wife and I got lots better after we moved into a large home and each of us moved into our own bedrooms.
Before we lived in a small two bedroom apartment that was about 900 square feet. If we were at home there was no where to escape. We had to see each other constantly. Yes, we love each other but some space is really nice.
So when we moved into a large home earlier this year things really improved. We love each other even more now that we have a way to escape each other. There is a large finished basement with a recreation center/second family room we have set up with a second 55 inch HDTV and a second computer. If one of us wants to watch a different television show in peace, or play with the Internet or just sit alone in quiet reading, that is where we go. Down there we are in complete privacy and quiet. The other HDTV and computer is in the family room on the first floor.
The second thing we did to improve our marriage is move into our own bedrooms. As we got older, both of us started to sleep poorly and were really bothered by the other person moving around in bed and the different sleep schedules we each had. The last year we slept in the same room and bed I only slept maybe four hours a night and would always get keyed up waiting for her to go to bed. I just could not sleep until she came to bed. Now we are in separate bedrooms I sleep like a baby and feel so much better mentally and physically.
So I think: Larger Home + Separate Bedrooms + More Space = BETTER MARRIAGE!
So marriage is really about escaping from your wife? Boy, sounds like a great scenario. FYI, this is why many married man become completely consumed with their hobbies after they have been married for awhile. Its an escape, which makes marriage completely pointless IMO.
I couldn't imagine not sleeping with my wife, and I can't imagine wanting to have lots of space between her and I, save for having nights out with separate friends and enjoying some space like that.
Studies have shown the best marriages are couples who give each other space, have their own friends, hobbies and outside diversions outside the house. Why can't we have that inside the house too?
When couples retire, many marriages break up that were healthy before because the couple smother each other being with each other all the time in a smaller home. While I am not retired, I can relate.
We talk more now than ever and our sex life is great. You don't have to sleep in the same bed to have a god sex life and communication!
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So marriage is really about escaping from your wife? Boy, sounds like a great scenario. FYI, this is why many married man become completely consumed with their hobbies after they have been married for awhile. Its an escape, which makes marriage completely pointless IMO.
So when we moved into a large home earlier this year things really improved. We love each other even more now that we have a way to escape each other. There is a large finished basement with a recreation center/second family room we have set up with a second 55 inch HDTV and a second computer....
So I think: Larger Home + Separate Bedrooms + More Space = BETTER MARRIAGE!
So what is your love advice for poor folks who can't afford a large home with all the affluent trappings?
Studies shmudies, I love being around my husband. Have for the last 16+ years, and will continue to do so. That said, everyone's situation is unique and it sounds like you've found something that works for you
Maybe that works for you - and that's great. That's not how our marriage works nor is it how we want it to work. Different strokes for different folks.
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I just couldn't imagine living like that. We have a completely open plan downstairs where both our computers are along with the TV, gaming consoles. We like being in the same space, doing things separately or together. We love snuggling together at night, sharing one last story or joke. I feel sorry for people who have to live such separate lives, really why bother being married?
The marriage of my wife and I got lots better after we moved into a large home and each of us moved into our own bedrooms.
Before we lived in a small two bedroom apartment that was about 900 square feet. If we were at home there was no where to escape. We had to see each other constantly. Yes, we love each other but some space is really nice.
So when we moved into a large home earlier this year things really improved. We love each other even more now that we have a way to escape each other. There is a large finished basement with a recreation center/second family room we have set up with a second 55 inch HDTV and a second computer. If one of us wants to watch a different television show in peace, or play with the Internet or just sit alone in quiet reading, that is where we go. Down there we are in complete privacy and quiet. The other HDTV and computer is in the family room on the first floor.
The second thing we did to improve our marriage is move into our own bedrooms. As we got older, both of us started to sleep poorly and were really bothered by the other person moving around in bed and the different sleep schedules we each had. The last year we slept in the same room and bed I only slept maybe four hours a night and would always get keyed up waiting for her to go to bed. I just could not sleep until she came to bed. Now we are in separate bedrooms I sleep like a baby and feel so much better mentally and physically.
So I think: Larger Home + Separate Bedrooms + More Space = BETTER MARRIAGE!
I'm glad it's working out for you. Both my parents and grandparents prefer to sleep in separate bedrooms. My grandparents never divorced- death was what ended their marriage and I wouldn't say my parents are extremely happy with each other, but they both like their space in the home and have no plans to separate.
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