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I like when a woman insists on paying for her portion. It's usually a good sign. But on a first date I usually insist on paying for everything.
Good thing you're not down south, nooyowkur.. I know a handful of country gentlemen that would beat you a new one for saying that. hah.
I guess in the fast-paced professional world it's more assuming that a woman should stand up to paying her way through a date, like a business transaction. I'll bet she wears a pants suit to dinner too.
I'm not a very business type person. I send smiley faces in emails ...I can be serious and professional if I need to be at work... but that doesn't belong in a date. If I'm going on a date, I want to dress up, wear the heels, have the door opened for me, have him pick up the tab on our first date.. it's commen manners. Manners that are founded in a dying breed. If more dates continue there is a line of friendship there, and friends will never expect a "free ride" all the time, that's when I would alternate. take him out for icecream... plan a picinic in the park, etc.
Call me old fashioned, but the man is the protector, the provider, the handyman fixer of the kitchen sink, wiz under the hood of the car, evil slayer of creepy crawlies in the night.. if the guy squirms at cracking open the wallet on our first date, its seen as a red flag of character. Things like that don't improve over time.
To this day, Hubby insists on paying the bill...let's NOT get into the conversation about it's OUR $$.
It makes him feel good to do it.
I remember one time the waitress set the bill down next to me and he said...I guess you have to pay this time. I laughed and said yeah but when we get home I expect you to.....ooops....PG forum
I would say most women still expect a man to pay on the first date, and I have no problems with that. In fact I prefer to pay for the first date. Heck even the first few dates. But it does reflect well on the woman if she offers to pay for her part of the date. Not to imply that I would hold it against a women for not offering to pay, because I wouldn't (at least not on the first few dates, but at some point I would hope that she would offer to take me out or go dutch).
I don't feel that is right for a woman to expect a man to pay everything every time. Especially in an urban setting where both people are working professionals. Yes some women like this still exist. I had a girlfriend like this (briefly).
Maybe I am old fashion,but the man always pays,I sometimes have the coupon for that particular restaurant,and usually give it to him.This way he knows he is paying.
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...I can be serious and professional if I need to be at work... but that doesn't belong in a date. If I'm going on a date, I want to dress up, wear the heels, have the door opened for me, have him pick up the tab on our first date.. it's commen manners. Manners that are founded in a dying breed. If more dates continue there is a line of friendship there, and friends will never expect a "free ride" all the time, that's when I would alternate. take him out for icecream... plan a picinic in the park, etc.
