when future inlaws tried to set my boyfriend up with somebody else

[carlitasway]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

My future inlaws don't like me (Long story) and now they tried to set boyfriend up with somebody else.
I feel I have wasted 2 years of my life, I am not ready to give up on my relationship, but with relationship dynamic like this, I don't believe I can give up on my integrity.

What am I suppose to do at this point?
My boyfriend says that I am the love of his life, and He will never give meup for anybody.

He is 38 I am 29 Help.

p.s. I guess I don't have confidence for the future of our relationship because I want to be realistic about things..

I personally would run. Inlaws are hell on earth if they don't like you. Sorry I can't sugarcoat it for you but if I knew then what I know now about inlaws, I probably would've ran. The only thing that helps is that they live hundreds of miles away but if they lived closer, it could never work for me.

[bellakin123]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

when I say "I didn't care about his single father status" I didn't mean I am indifferent, what I meant was that "that is not an issue for me"

Yes, I tend to over analyze things. and I have been seeking a therapist regarding the situation. and she has been advising me to simply clarify the misunderstandings if there are any, and also set some firm boundaries with everybody involved.

I don't know how to do it

I don't think it's you that needs to set boundaries with his parents. He's a big boy and needs to cut the cord once he's fully recovered and able to care for himself.

As for clarifying any misunderstandings, just sit with his parents in a relaxed environment. Maybe invite them to visit you or when you're visiting your bf, set aside some coffee/tea time and ask them to meet with you. It's possible everyone's been stressed over your bf's health and you want to let them know how you feel about him...yadda yadda. No anger, no yelling, no finger pointing. Everyone should air out what they feel. Sometimes hearing the truth, even if we don't want to hear it, is the best way for a relationship to continue. If you feel that they really liked you months ago then ask them if there's something you've done that made them change the way they feel. Tell them you sense that they don't like you. Let them tell you how they feel.