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I just don't get the need for "if she looked younger than her actual age". It wasn't needed, it was a bit rude, it implied women don't or can't generally look good at different ages. It's a bit of a jerk statement, IMO. I've dated people 10 years older, and 10 years younger. I prefer +/-5 years. Whatever. People are people.
I think the author of the thread is a woman, but in that case it just shows that she buys into the unhealthy attitude or assumed most men would. Sad regardless.
Not really. People are often persuaded by peer pressure. Younger people would be much more susceptible to this. A young man who was attracted to an older woman may hide this attraction fearing ridicule from his friends.
If you have any evidence to support your position, I'm willing to see it.
Not really. People are often persuaded by peer pressure. Younger people would be much more susceptible to this. A young man who was attracted to an older woman may hide this attraction fearing ridicule from his friends.
I don't know a single guy who feels that way. In fact, most of the guys I know who dated older women made it very known that they were attracted to her by saying, "She's 10 years older and HOT!"
Many years ago my brother in law dated a woman who was about 10 years older than him. They never hid the fact that she was older (she did not look 55 at all)...in fact, they'd often remind people. It was kind of annoying after a while though lol
I don't know a single guy who feels that way. In fact, most of the guys I know who dated older women made it very known that they were attracted to her by saying, "She's 10 years older and HOT!"
Many years ago my brother in law dated a woman who was about 10 years older than him. They never hid the fact that she was older (she did not look 55 at all)...in fact, they'd often remind people. It was kind of annoying after a while though lol
I think both the men and the women in older woman/younger man relationships sometimes see it as a sort of accomplishment. Understandable enough since women's age is so often looked at negatively. I suspect the older woman sees herself as somewhat exempt from those negative ideas about women aging, and the younger man may see himself as sexually and otherwise open minded or adventurous.
Few months ago, a new guy started at my company. He is very attractive but I found him too young for me. The thing is that I noticed that he gets very shy with me, greeting me with his head down looking to the floor and even ignoring me for no reason... I never flirted with him , always being friendly and kind... The other day I initiated a casual conversation with him, he gave me this glance over(you know the Up and down look) and smiled at me, and seemed sort of nervous. Or if I try to start a friendly chat with him he looks into my eyes and smiles...I'm sure he knows that i'm older than him, but not sure if he is afraid of me, or just wants to hide his feelings??? He asked me casually if I had plans for the weekend , which I replied with: " no nothing important". Did he want to find out if i had a bf or was he asking me out indirectly??? I am afraid that the age difference will be refraining him from trying to show his true intentions!!! Your opinions are welcome...
I casually dated a couple women who were close to a decade older than me but I prefer women who are younger than me.
I don't know a single guy who feels that way. In fact, most of the guys I know who dated older women made it very known that they were attracted to her by saying, "She's 10 years older and HOT!"
Many years ago my brother in law dated a woman who was about 10 years older than him. They never hid the fact that she was older (she did not look 55 at all)...in fact, they'd often remind people. It was kind of annoying after a while though lol
I'm sure. However, that doesn't mean that most guys are like that.
I'm sure. However, that doesn't mean that most guys are like that.
Doesn't mean they aren't I think there are more guys like that than there are women, meaning, there are probably younger women with older men who hide it from their friends/family for fear of ridicule being labeled as possibly having "daddy issues". Most guys would "high 5" for being with the older woman
I think both the men and the women in older woman/younger man relationships sometimes see it as a sort of accomplishment. Understandable enough since women's age is so often looked at negatively. I suspect the older woman sees herself as somewhat exempt from those negative ideas about women aging, and the younger man may see himself as sexually and otherwise open minded or adventurous.
I can tell you how I feel about attention from young men. Flattered. Is that morally wrong? I don't think so. Just as an older man would probably feel flattered by attention from a young woman. It really is like getting attention from someone who is much better looking than yourself. Flattering, but who lurks beneath the smoldering good looks? Very attractive people are, after all, just as capable of being *******s as the rest of us.
I would be hard pressed to think of a good reason to either date or otherwise become involved with a young man. They are more physically attractive, but that has never been enough of a reason for me. Even the most mature young man is still a young man. I feel very much a world apart from them. For those who do find physical attractiveness enough .... that is not my business.
Also, I think there is more at work here than just the stigma of age. There is also the feeling of becoming unable and perhaps useless.
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I think there are more guys like that than there are women, meaning, there are probably younger women with older men who hide it from their friends/family for fear of ridicule being labeled as possibly having "daddy issues". Most guys would "high 5" for being with the older woman 
