What's the longest a man can wait...... (dates, movies, marriage)

[Laychick]

if he's really seeking a relationship and wants to get intimate at some point??? Even though it's been a long while since I'm not a virgin (gave it away to my now ex bf 4-5 months into the relationship), I still withhold the same mentality as when I was.

IMO 2-4 dates would be too early for me (even 1 month or 2 is early too) and I don't function like Hollywood movies where they both get intimate within a very short time. In addition, I would like it to start of as friendship and slowly move on towards relationship status but it's like nowadays those types are hard to find.

Nope, I never believed in waiting till marriage (that extreme in a man would turn me off as well too) but neither I'm I the ''Ok, I'm ready and it's been only 2 weeks since we met'' type. I'm kinda slow in that area but hopefully I'm find the man that will go at my pace too.

But generally speaking, if you guys into the woman and definitely finds her attractive as well as liking her personality (but she refuses to put out quickly) how long can you wait? I expect months... that's just me.

[Laychick]

Or is that really hard for a man?

[TaoistDude]

I could probably wait up to 3 months for someone I think is truly extraordinary. If she's as in to me as I'd have to be in to her, it wouldn't be any longer and would probably be less. After 3 months, I'm going to assume she's not into me, and move on no matter what, because we're certainly not as good a match despite any earlier indications.

[the minx]

I can't answer for the men, but as a woman who deals with them:

I think a lot of men look to seal the deal within a couple of weeks or 3-5 dates. Seems to be when they get antsy.

[Jedi000]

I would wait til' both of us were ready. For the second question, depends on the person.

[Laychick]

Originally Posted by TaoistDude

If she's as in to me as I'd have to be in to her, it wouldn't be any longer and would probably be less.

Yeah, that's the problem. I would feel as if I were being rushed.

[intelfan11315]

Sounds like you just want to control the guy making him wait that long

[Laychick]

Originally Posted by the minx

I can't answer for the men, but as a woman who deals with them:

I think a lot of men look to seal the deal within a couple of weeks or 3-5 dates. Seems to be when they get antsy.

I guess it's gonna take me a while to find the one that won't expect me to go at a ''Hollywood movie'' pace.

[Laychick]

Originally Posted by burgler09

Sounds like you just want to control the guy making him wait that long

Nope, but I'm just like that. I'm kinda slow. Why is this so difficult to understand?
And no, I'm not a manipulator.

[Raena77]

When you and him are ready. If you really are into the guy the intensity will get to you.