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This brings me back to the idea of standards. I believe that a lot of people are lonely or frustrated because they will not let go of their standards and are just too picky.
Dude, are you kidding me?? Those porkers you are attracted to? Trust me...they are available.
Ethnicities? Holds no relevance for me…I believe there is beauty in every ethnicity…TRUST me when I say this since I have dated people from every ethnic background ( Or mostly). Or at the very least have found them attractive,
Traits,,
1.Huge smile and not afraid to use it!
I have found many people to not smile enough! And they are “eh” but when they smile to reveal a nice smile to be very charming..!
2. Nice teeth.. Nice even white teeth are a huge turn on..sorry..this is mom’s fault and I have stayed true to this for a long time on here.
My mother always said, “A man with nice teeth states they take care of themselves.”
Although I have found guys with semi crooked teeth to hold character…BUT….they have to be clean..and no missing teeth for me…
*Dimples are a def. perk* eeek…
3. Beautiful eyes is a perk..Not empty eyes but sparkly eyes, life to them..
Not “pig” eyes, I hate these…
4. Body type? Not so much…I have dated guys with abs of steel, soft bellies, bellies that were absent and made me want to feed them..
5. HEIGHT…This continues to be an area of reform for me..
I can honestly say regardless of ethnicity, body type, face or teeth, one thing has been a theme for me..HEIGHT..
My first serious b/f? 5’11 and Hispanic/Philipino.
My ex-husband? 6’1.
Any casual b/f before them that did not last to long? 5’10-6’5...
Any Casual dating after them? 5’6-6’4...
The shortest one? 5’6? And this was an issue but I tried to look past it..but it did not go far.
My recent ex and the guy I still talk too? 6’2...
I feel shallow when looking at guys casually..because the taller ones always hold my gaze longer no matter how good looking the short guys are..I am trying to overcome this but again this is my preference..
I feel shallow when looking at guys casually..because the taller ones always hold my gaze longer no matter how good looking the short guys are..I am trying to overcome this but again this is my preference..
Please do the short guys a huge favor and leave them alone. Stick to your tall guys if that is what you really like and want.
Nothing worse than a "reformist". Most short guys who are good with women can spot women like you from a mile away.
Please do the short guys a huge favor and leave them alone. Stick to your tall guys if that is what you really like and want.
Nothing worse than a "reformist". Most short guys who are good with women can spot women like you from a mile away.
that was a yucky response since this thread is bout honesty and stating only the physical without the other aspects and attributes...
"Leave them alone?" Sorry but I do not "seek" "Them" out, they seek me out.. So what you should be doing is addressing "short" men and telling them what to do...
I stated a truth and am trying to overcome this...so please spare me your judgement...wrong thread do it on BTW...
I don't think most people are picky. Just go outside and look around at the couples you see. It only Internet folks who are super picky.
That's a good point, I shouldn't overlook what I see with my own eyes. Noticing it out and about is more passive, but it is also real. Noticing the picky ones on the internet is more active because we conscientiously log in and come to this sub-forum to read the latest.
Dude, are you kidding me?? Those porkers you are attracted to? Trust me...they are available.
If you are lonely, you have bigger problems.
That is pretty much the point of this thread. No matter what your attractions or preferences may be, there is probably someone who is available. It's when people start mixing standards in that people become "disqualified."
I should add that sometimes the line between preferences and standards can be blurred. I think it is probably different for everyone, and the difference is in the individual's willingness to compromise. For example a guy likes blondes and meets the woman of his dreams but she is a red head. If blondes are a preference, he shrugs it off and dates her anyway. If blondes are a standard, he moves on. Obviously this is a simplified and basic example, but hopefully the idea behind it is clear.
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I think 'preferences' and 'standards' are largely the same thing. I also think both are more malleable than we believe. We let society restrict what we SHOULD find attractive. In nature, I think males are attracted to most females, but females are attracted to males which have the guts to 'make her feel like a woman.' It may not sound polite, but I think that's the way nature is. Things like body shape, ethnic preference are a combination of some generic preference and socialisation, while standards are mostly socially conditioned I think. I do think all are malleable to some extent, if we're more open minded towards them (it's like food). I've found over time I've become more open-minded to different 'types' of women in terms of looks.
I don't think most people are picky. Just go outside and look around at the couples you see. It only Internet folks who are super picky.
I had to think about this a second time after reading it. It seems like it is the internet people who have no one are the super picky. Ah yes, but they have standards.
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