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Hi. Just curious what all you other ladies would think about having a boyfriend who spends about four nights a week playing poker. My boyfriend does this. He leaves around, say, 8 or 9 PM and stays there until 5-6 AM. I go to sleep alone most of the time.
Would you ladies have any problem with this?
The way I see it, I much prefer that to him being to type to go out to bars or something of that nature instead. It's his time to be social and talk to people outside our house.
Still, I'd like it if I didn't spend the wee hours of the night all by myself all the time.
I'd be worried about a gambling addiction or worse. 8 hours a night, 4 nights a week sounds very excessive for casual night out with friends or something. Does he work? How would he work and sleep?
Well, you have a decision to make. Seems he likes his poker quite a bit. Sounds like he prefers it to staying home and sleeping with you. Doesn't sound like the kind of guy you have in mind. Sounds like your relationship isn't going anywhere.
Is he playing for money or just chips at a friend's home ? or is he at a casino? Does he work? How the heck can he work and play poker those hours.
Is he in debt? Who is paying his bills? Does he do anything with you on weekends.? Is all his free time spent playing poker? Does he ask for you money to go play- are you giving him money?
It does sound as if he has a gambling problem. I think if you answer the above questions to yourself you may realize that what he is doing is excessive.
You may want to contact Gam-Anon. This is a support group, similar to Al-anon, for family and friends of gamblers. You might find answers to questions there as well as strategies to cope. But please do something. This sort of situation only seems to get worse and can severely impact both your relationship with him and your finances. .You can go to the Gamblers Anonymous website and link to Gam-Anon from there. Good luck
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Hi. Just curious what all you other ladies would think about having a boyfriend who spends about four nights a week playing poker. My boyfriend does this. He leaves around, say, 8 or 9 PM and stays there until 5-6 AM. I go to sleep alone most of the time.
Would you ladies have any problem with this?
The way I see it, I much prefer that to him being to type to go out to bars or something of that nature instead. It's his time to be social and talk to people outside our house.
Still, I'd like it if I didn't spend the wee hours of the night all by myself all the time.
Does he work a day job? If so, how the hell do you have energy to play poker for 8 hours after working 7-10 hours?
It'd be one thing if this was a once a week thing, but 4 nights a week at 8 hours per night? Methinks there is a pair happening that is not on the poker table or using the poker table outside of it's original intent.
Yeah, the bigger question here would be, "Who the heck stays with someone who takes off between 8-9 pm and stays gone until 5-6 AM, and they're not at work!?"
I would never put up with this kind of behaviour. It is completely unacceptable to me to stay out that late so many nights a week. I'd be looking for a new boyfriend too.
Yeah, the bigger question here would be, "Who the heck stays with someone who takes off between 8-9 pm and stays gone until 5-6 AM, and they're not at work!?"
I agree. Who cares about the poker itself, what kind of relationship can you have with someone you never sleep with? And by that I mean more than sex. This guy isn't available therefore he isn't someone I would want.
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