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Or is it vice versa? People look for like things in others. Yet it's said that opposites attract. So what do you all think? Or what has your experiences been concerning this?
I want someone who balances me, not my clone. I am happiest with someone who shares similar values and a similar outlook on what's important in life, but who has a perhaps different kind of intelligence or skill set. I am very booksmart, with a rather demanding white-collar job. I tend to date guys who have more "life experience" and are good at working with their hands in some way - with that often comes a different approach to problems and crises that I appreciate.
When my one ex and I were together, we operated like a well-oiled machine even though most people thought we were a total odd couple. It was pretty cool.
Or is it vice versa? People look for like things in others. Yet it's said that opposites attract. So what do you all think? Or what has your experiences been concerning this?
For me, a connection is likely to occur if we have similar interests/ viewpoints on issues. But of course, when the person I date can bring something into my life that I have no idea about, that is awesome also.
To answer your question simply put, IME for me, opposites do not attract.
Opposites attract out of curiosity about differences. In the long run, those differences often cause friction and relationship problems. Long term relationships work better for those who are more alike.
You can be opposite in terms of one being more outgoing, and the other being more quiet...I see that in many, many relationships. You don't have to like the same foods, music, don't have to share all the same hobbies and interests.
IMO you can't have a successful relationship if you're not alike in your life plans, goals, morals, values, character, views on child-rearing.
I'd think it depends on the two people's openness and tolerance to one another. There's a couple who comes on CNN from time to time: James Carville and Mary Matalin. One is a die hard Democrat and another a die hard Republican but they work and they seem madly in love and committed to one another.
You can be opposite in terms of one being more outgoing, and the other being more quiet...I see that in many, many relationships. You don't have to like the same foods, music, don't have to share all the same hobbies and interests.
IMO you can't have a successful relationship if you're not alike in your life plans, goals, morals, values, character, views on child-rearing.
You can be opposite in terms of one being more outgoing, and the other being more quiet...I see that in many, many relationships. You don't have to like the same foods, music, don't have to share all the same hobbies and interests.
IMO you can't have a successful relationship if you're not alike in your life plans, goals, morals, values, character, views on child-rearing.
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