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I'm usually attracted to girls that have other sides to them, whether its an artistic side, or a love of traveling or something other than lets party and get wasted every weekend. To me thats boring.
I think it all comes down to how much one cares about other peoples perception. If someone really cares about their social status, fitting in, keeping up with the Joneses...they will likely immitate others in many different ways, from clothing choices to activities they choose to fill their day with. But if you are mor eunique and more interested in what you think of yourself, while disregarding what others think of you, chances are you will develop your own style and your own life path that works just for you. I believe, men and women see these things a bit differently, but I wont get into that much. When a man finds his style and his own way, I think it should be congruent with his personality and most of the time it is exactly that.
I would be intrigued by the individual who is different. I am different so I seek out people who are like me. I was never one to get wasted in a bar or at a club. You would find me at a museum, at an astronomy club( star gazing) or camping with friend at a cabin. Be you there are enough clones in the world, we can do without another one
I think there might be more appeal to the "mass produced" approach. I've read lots of dating articles which tell me what to wear, how to do my hair and nails, etc, etc. to attract more men.
But I still prefer to just do my own thing. My logic is, if I attract a man to me by me "not" really being myself, there is a chance he was never really attracted to the real me. I will have to keep up a facade as long as we are together (which I can see me regretting in time) or else some poor guy is suddenly going to be wondering why his sophisticated cocktail dress, heel wearing woman is suddenly into wearing "beach gear" and flipflops and stopped getting manicures in favor of buying scuba tank refills.
This first, the facade isn't fair to me. The second, the "bait and switch," isn't fair to him.
So I just be myself and be who I am. And while I might attract less men that way, I know the ones I *do* attract and like what they see are attracted to the authentic me. No need to put up a facade and no sudden surprise changes for him later on.
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A man without hobbies/sporty/doing things is a boring man. A boring man is a man who gets drunk in bars every weekend.
That's my take on it for men and women both...I personally like someone that "does their own thing" and I LOVE characters,as long as they are true characters and not phony about it...I hate a drunken idiot though and have no use for one.
I think it all comes down to how much one cares about other peoples perception. If someone really cares about their social status, fitting in, keeping up with the Joneses...they will likely immitate others in many different ways, from clothing choices to activities they choose to fill their day with. But if you are mor eunique and more interested in what you think of yourself, while disregarding what others think of you, chances are you will develop your own style and your own life path that works just for you. I believe, men and women see these things a bit differently, but I wont get into that much. When a man finds his style and his own way, I think it should be congruent with his personality and most of the time it is exactly that.
Not sure how to completely explain this but here it goes. When you go out to a bar or certain bars you walk in and see every guy with a long sleeve Ralph Lauren or whatever shirt, slacks,dress shoes, short hair ect. Girls wearing dresses all similar to each other.
Gross. Sounds like you're hanging out in the wrong places. Nobody I know wears slacks to a bar unless they're going there straight from work, the theater, or a wedding.
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