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Many older gentlemen who suffer from depression are often dismissed as having “grumpy old man syndrome”. Maybe your husband cannot control his behavior at this point. It looks like you two have been through a lot.
I am 28 years old. My mom loves to shop with me. (She just turned 62 and has not been very happy about aging although she looks like she is still in her 40s) Staying young and active is very important to her. My dad likes to hang out with his friends. He likes to play golf and travel. My mom and dad love each other very much but they take time off from each other.
Do you have very close girl friends whom you can hang out with? It is depressing to be the primary care taker of somebody all the time.
There are care taker support group and maybe you can check it out. You can share stories about life as the caretaker and the hardships of life. You can find comfort and support in knowing that you're not alone.
Oh my!
You have every reason to be tired of him, thats for sure.
BUT.....this is when you need to remember your vows.
Pray for understanding, get help for your spouse &
take a spa vacation.
One more recommending he goes to a doctor to be tested. You both need to have activities apart, maybe even take separate vacations/trips. You go visit your family and he goes visit his (or old friends in other locations). Time apart will make both of you realize how much you depend on each other or not.
I am 62 and my husband is 65. I have known him since I was 13 years old. We have been married 43 years. No children. I am tired. We have been through a lot, cancer, heart attack, pain pill addiction, lots of broken bones and arthritis hence, pain pill addiction. Now we argue about a whether a table was setting up or folded!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It was set up because I had things on it but he doesn't remember it at all and it was his stuff on it. He says he mowed the yard all summer last year and I did it. He has bad rotator cuffs and arthritis and I always mowed it. When he sees a bump in the road he all but wants me to stop and go over it like a huge speed bump. I could go on and on but I am just worn out with him. Sometimes I don't want him around anymore. Has anyone been in this situation ? I could really use some input, positive or negative, I don't care. Thank you all.
Tazy I'm sorry for how hard things are right now
Honestly, it sounds as though your husband is going through some kind of early dementia.
Have you had him checked out by his doctor? These personality changes are so common in early dementia!
Please please consult a medical professional as soon as you can.
My aunt and uncle are like this. Of the two, my aunt talks to me and she is miserable, but doesn't know how to do anything else but be in that marriage with him. Anyways, despite all this, you probably "Love each other very much", right? :|
I'd suggest you find a hobby so when he becomes annoying you can leave the house and have something fun to do. Sounds like you are around him too much.
Well you're probably right but the relationships forum is full of teenybop problems and young guys wanting to know how to score with a girl, so perhaps her post belongs more here where posters her age can relate and respond with experience and empathy. Her thread would move quickly to the bottom and out on other forums. I'll think about her question and reply in a minute.
I agree with those who said - get his checked by a Physician. There could be underlying reason(s) he's become the way he is. This should be your first step.
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It was set up because I had things on it but he doesn't remember it at all and it was his stuff on it. He says he mowed the yard all summer last year and I did it. He has bad rotator cuffs and arthritis and I always mowed it. When he sees a bump in the road he all but wants me to stop and go over it like a huge speed bump. I could go on and on but I am just worn out with him. Sometimes I don't want him around anymore. Has anyone been in this situation ? I could really use some input, positive or negative, I don't care. Thank you all.
