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There was this girl who was in my circle of friends in college, and I thought I had a good flirty thing going with her. My friends were always pressuring me to ask her out. I graduated last December and she's still in school. I'm going to work in the city where our college was located and I'd be lying if I said I didn't have a little bit of hope that I'll get another opportunity to hang out with her.
But here's the weird thing. Right when I graduated, I announced the fact on Facebook. When I signed in an hour later, I noticed that her account had been deactivated, and it has remained so up until now. This seemed weird since she was pretty active on Facebook and her disappearance corresponded so perfectly with me announcing that I was done with school.
I also went back to hang with some friends and she ended up being there too, but I wasn't getting the same vibe as before. 1-word answers, no eye-contact, etc. I was kind of disappointed because she used to light up and talk to me when I showed up to social gatherings.
Any ideas why this might be? I honestly don't have any hopes of being with her, but I just like to know why someone would seem to like me and then suddenly, poof, nothing. I'm especially interested in whether me graduating somehow sparked her disappearance from Facebook (People who are very active on Facebook don't usually just disappear from it, let alone disappear without warning their friends).
People deactivate their account all the time - least from my experience - getting spammed, drama, etc. Doesn't mean she won't be back. You could always ask?
I think you should go out on a limb and ask her out. Maybe she's disappointed because she thinks you're gone now, and her chances with you are over. You won't know if you have a shot unless you ask. You've got nothing to lose.
are you sure she didnt block you, instead of deactivating her account?
Yes. Facebook constantly makes changes on their interface works, but I've done some investigation and I know that, as of now:
(1) There is no deleting your Facebook profile. It's always there!
(2) The most you can do is deactivate it. When you deactivate your profile, you still show up on your friends' friends lists if they scroll through it, but they won't see your name if they type it into the query and if they click on your profile then it'll say "X has deactivated his/her profile." Also, the deactivated person is completely invisible to any non-friends of theirs.
(3) Blocking someone automatically unfriends them and makes you completely invisible to them.
People deactivate their account all the time - least from my experience - getting spammed, drama, etc.
Right, but the timing seemed a little too coincidental. I have a few theories. One is that she had already been considering deactivating her profile, and when she saw that I was graduating (and thus leaving the area) she made the split-second decision to do it then so that, as an added bonus, she could see if I would respond to that by texting her "Hey, did you delete your Facebook?" or whatever. That would be her way of knowing whether I still wanted to keep in contact.
The next time you see her when you are with your other friends why don't you ask HER, she is the only one who knows why she did what she did. The best way to get an answer is usually to ask directly the one you want the answer from.
I mean, you're either really overestimating the importance of your announcement to her, or she blocked you because she didn't actually like you and was worried you'd start hanging around her again.
Yes. Facebook constantly makes changes on their interface works, but I've done some investigation and I know that, as of now:
(1) There is no deleting your Facebook profile. It's always there!
(2) The most you can do is deactivate it. When you deactivate your profile, you still show up on your friends' friends lists if they scroll through it, but they won't see your name if they type it into the query and if they click on your profile then it'll say "X has deactivated his/her profile." Also, the deactivated person is completely invisible to any non-friends of theirs.
(3) Blocking someone automatically unfriends them and makes you completely invisible to them.
Id be speculating why she went cold on you. so, you're going to have to ask her.
That's what everyone says whenever the topic is asking someone out. And it is true if you're at some random resort for a vacation and you know there's a 0.00001% chance of you ever seeing the vacationist girls again. It's not true when someone is in your circle of friends.
In any case I don't want to ask her out. I'm just curious why she seemed friendly and then disappeared.
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