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Contrary to myth most women don't want to date older men. Why a 40 year old man or older would think 25 year old would be interested I will never understand. One of the reasons women traditionally married older had to do with him being the provider but now with women providing there is no reason to date an older man.
Who said anything about 25? I'm talking about 35-40. I'd go as young as 30, but thats it.
Im 30 and im currently dating a 40 year old (by far the oldest i dated, my ex was actually one year younger than me, he is 29 now) and i think i might start dating 40 year olds now. They seem to be the greatest in every aspect.
ps: im 30 but look younger (around 25) and get approached a lot by younger guys in their 20s (not for me, just got out of a relationship with a very inmature guy in his 20s) man my age, man in their 30s and in their 40s. Im thinking the 40 year old bunch is the best one.
My largest was 17 years and I lived with a guy 15 years older. Both were control freaks who intentionally dated younger so they could control. Not to mention we didn't share a lot of the same experiences. The 17 years older guy had already been divorced and widowed with no intention of marriage again, and the 15 years older hadn't been but was a bit of a confirmed bachelor.
The guy 14 years older than me was controlling too. I felt very insecure and just not good enough. Not smart enough, not experienced enough, not educated enough. I felt like he was trying to mold me into someone else. And he was so quick to suggest I move in with him and he was so quick to offer to spend money. And that just reinforced that the things I had bought with my own money just weren't good enough for him. I had my own insecurities and he brought a lot of them to light.
Who said anything about 25? I'm talking about 35-40. I'd go as young as 30, but thats it.
Because many of the men I saw on dating sites often listed 18-25 and very often they were 40 years or older. There is very little chance of a woman that age wanting an older man. I don't know how old you are but when I see men seeking much younger then yes I assume they have some sort of mental problems not wanting women their age.
The guy 14 years older than me was controlling too. I felt very insecure and just not good enough. Not smart enough, not experienced enough, not educated enough. I felt like he was trying to mold me into someone else. And he was so quick to suggest I move in with him and he was so quick to offer to spend money. And that just reinforced that the things I had bought with my own money just weren't good enough for him. I had my own insecurities and he brought a lot of them to light.
That definitely sounds like the two guys I dated to a T. Both were obsessed with me keeping my figure and the one (not the one I lived with)actually would weigh me before we went out for dinner and if I was "fat" to him (and by fat I mean 115 pounds at 5'7)he would order me a salad no dressing and perhaps a chicken breast no sauce. The other one when I moved in would constantly judge me on everything and yes he suggested moving in after the second date. He also told me if I became pregnant it was my fault and he would abandon me unless I had an abortion like the 3 women he got pregnant.
Who said anything about 25? I'm talking about 35-40. I'd go as young as 30, but thats it.
Thats my perspective. I'm not much younger than you and have a 30 lower age even though it is really dependant on the person. Same applies with someone older than me. My group of friends and the people I socialize with are very diverse and cover ages from early 20s to 60s. One of the women who is 25 is dating a guy who is 45. They both like the same music, share the same hobbies, and socialize with the same diverse group and no one thinks twice about it. Another women I know who is 60ish has a relationship with a guy who is in his late 30s and they get along fine. Don't see age limits affecting them. If they did have age limits they might not have anyone, like some of the people with self imposed limits here.
As men and women get older, past their mid-20s, one of two things happen: either they get set in their ways and become more and more rigid or else they learn from their experiences and become more flexible. My experience is that this affects how easy it is to "date" and how easy it is to have fun.
That definitely sounds like the two guys I dated to a T. Both were obsessed with me keeping my figure and the one (not the one I lived with)actually would weigh me before we went out for dinner and if I was "fat" to him (and by fat I mean 115 pounds at 5'7)he would order me a salad no dressing and perhaps a chicken breast no sauce. The other one when I moved in would constantly judge me on everything and yes he suggested moving in after the second date. He also told me if I became pregnant it was my fault and he would abandon me unless I had an abortion like the 3 women he got pregnant.
That's probably why a 30+yo man is interested in a 20 year old. Easier to manipulate and control.
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