Honest discussion about guys who never dated in high school or college (dating, wife)
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Guys who never dated in high school or college are significantly impaired. Imagine being me and having zero experience at age 24. On issues of the opposite sex I have the emotional maturity level of a junior high schooler. I don't know how to deal with crushes, how to initiate physical contact with girls, or anything like that. I feel pathetic even trying.
Don't beat yourself up. You're not at all alone. There are more guys like you out there than you think. There are also women who didn't date in HS or college. Real life is very different from TV and other media portrayals. Just get out there and meet people. Do activities, join groups, mingle. When you meet a woman through some shared activity that you like, if the feeling is mutual, all the rest will take its course fairly naturally. It's not gonna happen if you're on the computer all the time, though.
Don't beat yourself up. You're not at all alone. There are more guys like you out there than you think. There are also women who didn't date in HS or college. Real life is very different from TV and other media portrayals. Just get out there and meet people. Do activities, join groups, mingle.
Yes.
Look, some people are simply late bloomers. It doesn't mean that you are impaired in any way simply because you never dated in High School or College. What's bringing you down is the low self-esteem that you are displaying from your original post. I was a pretty late bloomer myself, and I'm doing just fine. There are a lot of things I am interested in and activities I engage in that I didn't begin until recently, and had no interest in them until later in my life.
Also, the good thing about being older is that, even with no dating experience, you are wiser and more mature about life. That can help you avoid a ton of the drama that can plague young love. Do what Ruth suggests: join groups, engage in activities, and enjoy your 20s!
Don't beat yourself up. You're not at all alone. There are more guys like you out there than you think. There are also women who didn't date in HS or college.
It's different for women, though. Women aren't the initiators. They aren't the ones who ask guys out and are expected to initiate the first kiss and yada yada.
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Real life is very different from TV and other media portrayals. Just get out there and meet people. Do activities, join groups, mingle. When you meet a woman through some shared activity that you like, if the feeling is mutual, all the rest will take its course fairly naturally. It's not gonna happen if you're on the computer all the time, though.
Yeah, but you see, going back to thing about me being emotionally immature, if I joined some activity group and there was a single girl I thought I had a chance with (The probability of this is low. You don't see a lot of decently attractive single girls.), I would get way too excited and get my hopes up and be so disappointed when I got rejected.
I don't have to imagine. I was there. Had first G/F age 25, 2nd age 29, both long-term and they both wanted to marry me very much, but I didn't feel it was right. Anyway, all I can say, the emotional and physical stuff, holding hands, sex, making out, flirting, etc, it just comes naturally, we are animals after all. If you like who you are and carry yourself that way, you should have no problems, esp since I've seen your pictures.
You need to get out there like Ruth said, I sure as hell didn't met any women sitting at home hoping they'd come knock on my door.
All those guys who dated in college and high school had to start somewhere. I was pretty awkward back then but I put myself out there and eventually things became more natural.
Also, there's nothing you can do about the past now, so dwelling on it isn't going to help.
Yeah, but you see, going back to thing about me being emotionally immature, if I joined some activity group and there was a single girl I thought I had a chance with (The probability of this is low. You don't see a lot of decently attractive single girls.), I would get way too excited and get my hopes up and be so disappointed when I got rejected.
Don't think that way. Shoot, you're probably a catch too, right? As to the bolded, nonsense, they were single at one point and some other dude asked them out 'cos he wasn't too scared.
Guys who never dated in high school or college are significantly impaired. Imagine being me and having zero experience at age 24. On issues of the opposite sex I have the emotional maturity level of a junior high schooler. I don't know how to deal with crushes, how to initiate physical contact with girls, or anything like that. I feel pathetic even trying.
I'm so confused. I thought you were married and your wife wanted to go get "tall sperm"?
As to the bolded, nonsense, they were single at one point and some other dude asked them out 'cos he wasn't too scared.
That's not necessarily true. Attractive women tend to get their next guy lined up while they're in their current relationship.
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