I Cheated on my partner with no intentions (girl, loving, too young)
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So let me get this straight, OP. You went from having a perfectly innocent social interaction with two other people, with no hint of any flirting or sexual tension, then 10 seconds later you awaken with one of them sodomizing you?
Is that how it went down? Or was there perhaps something that occurred in between?
If not, you were assaulted.
Agree. If you were not already making out, I cannot see how you could get into that situation, that quickly, by choice. Plus the fact that you were disgusted when you woke up.
And, frankly, the suicide attempt is a pretty typical response to rape. But you seem like you have a lot of issues, so it could be not...
I suspect drinking, and blacking out are both excuses, and nothing more. If he is smart, he will end this relationship, because it will never be the same. Guilt does some funny things to us and makes us speak when we should be silent. Getting your indiscretion off your chest makes you feel better, but it destroys your fiance. If everything was so perfect, why would you do such a thing? I'm reasonably sure you don't give a bj to the nearest guy every time you drink...
I hate to say this but you shouldn't have said anything. You should have just kept quiet and never done it again. It was just a foolish mistake that you could have just put behind you. Now just because you said something this could affect your life forever. Best of luck though.
Keep quite, **** this would eat at me if I did this to my wife.
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Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut
sorry, but I don't buy you love him so much nonsense; your guilt telling you that not your heart. imo
I hope he leaves you, I would.
Yeah I agree, now your confessing how much you love him since you cheated.
Next why were you out getting **** faced? You have a kid at home, so time to grow up. Now I am not saying grow up and not have a few drinks with friends, but going over to somebody's house and then getting so drunk you wake up giving head. YOU LADY ARE RACHET. I would leave you, **** you would have not got in my car at all. I DONT FEEL SORRY FOR YOU.
Oh and the whole killing your self, Tried is the word cause most people don't have the balls to do it. Get help.
The old "I slipped and my mouth accidentally fell right on his penis" defense doesn't sell very well. My guess is you now stand at the beginning of the end no matter what you do. Everyone screws up, I'm hopeful you won't need a repeat this one again.
No No, HELL NO, not everyone screws up, I don't believe that for a damn second. Saying everyone makes mistakes is like saying it's ok to make a mistake cause everyone makes them. I have never drank and never will, and I am 31. Yes I have been places and seen pretty women that I so called could have done the so called screw up, Should I have done it cause everyone screws up. HELL NO.
So let me get this straight, OP. You went from having a perfectly innocent social interaction with two other people, with no hint of any flirting or sexual tension, then 10 seconds later you awaken with one of them sodomizing you?
Is that how it went down? Or was there perhaps something that occurred in between?
If not, you were assaulted.
Sodomizing? Did you read a different post than I did??
Just look at people's posts here. This forum is NOT the right place to ask. You will not get a single helpful post. You'll get a lot of judgmental BS, but that's it.
You should seek counseling immediately if you did try to kill yourself.
OP, go to a counselor, talk to them rather than this forum. I hope it works out in the best interest of your daughter.
PLEASE do not attempt suicide again or even consider that an option. You're a mother. If you kill yourself you're pretty much killing your child also. Put her first.
It will never be the same with the boyfriend. I don't know what he'll choose to end up doing. But get some help for your sake and your child's sake. And please do not get trashed anymore.
Best of luck to you. You can turn this around. Do it for YOU and YOUR child.
I hardly ever take this stance, but you should have kept your mouth shut (in both cases), and then NEVER put yourself in a situation where something like that can occur again. When you love someone, you need to protect them, and in this case protect them from yourself.
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No No, HELL NO, not everyone screws up, I don't believe that for a damn second. Saying everyone makes mistakes is like saying it's ok to make a mistake cause everyone makes them. I have never drank and never will, and I am 31. Yes I have been places and seen pretty women that I so called could have done the so called screw up, Should I have done it cause everyone screws up. HELL NO.
Its an online forum, you don't need to put words in my mouth so you can have a pretense for responding with your agenda.
I never said that screwing up or saying something is a mistake made it ok and only an child would think so but thank you for pointing out what everyone over the age of 4 knows. The fact is she screwed up. She knows her mistake. This is in no way an excuse its simply what has transpired and despite your holier than thou BS you have also screwed up and done something that pretty much sucked. Everyone has, most of us learn from it and all of us have to wake up having done it and move forward from there.
I would remind you that were you to crucify the nearest person who has screwed up royally the first nail would be driven into your own wrist. You can deny it if you want but I'll know your lying so I wouldn't bother. In the end all I can do is say I'm sorry, I will not be able to join you or anyone elses lynching party because I'm not perfect. Make of it what you will.
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Oh well
